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You have 0 freinds
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GojuBrian
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I have some ,"friends" that way too.
Oats, I'd hang out with ya!
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Oats, I'd hang out with ya!
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Oats
Member
...thats nice to know, i hardly hang out, just use my computer...
Christ_empowered
Member
All I can think of is getting into church and Bible Study. I've met people through Bible Study, and they're great--we're not at the point where we're hanging out, but they're there if and when I need them, and I'm the same way for them. Church is also a great place to meet some high quality people.
Oats
Member
i already do that
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Alabaster
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Oats
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oh, i thought i was
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Alabaster
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I was thinking about what you said about not hanging out. Certainly you have friends at church?
jasoncran
Member
i wouldnt just hang out with brian, there would have to be some wrestling on that matt of his.
Oats, i was socially awkward when i came to christ, it took time the lord used the church to heal me.i also had to learn and this recently. i am who i am meant to be a nerd. i hated that name in school and elsewhere. but it fits.
i dont know what freinship is for real. the only friens i have for real who apreciate that i believe what i believe and do not take it as a lie live in the past, or are from the past.
shed a tear with you here..
keep ya head up
"freinds are people that you think are youre friends but....
shed a tear with you here..
keep ya head up
"freinds are people that you think are youre friends but....
You may have more friends than you realize but maybe you're just not seeing them? There have been times when I've felt like I had no friends but the truth was they were there but I wasn't seeing them. The problem is that I am too reluctant to relax and let myself be vulnerable enough to get close to others.
Mike
Member
Oats, a few things come to mind. Do you know anyone you appreciate but don't take the time to reach out to? Regrettably, most of could probably says yes. But in your case, it seems you could consider that just as you might not reach out to others, there are people who know and like you who don't take that step themselves. Just because you don't get a call, receive a message or have people stop by, doesn't mean you aren't considered a friend.
I've had people I've known who have passed away, and it was too late that I realized I hadn't seized the opportunities I had to ensure that they knew they were appreciated. I don't know you aside from this board, but I'm quite sure there are people in your community who feel that way about you.
My other thought is that sometimes a person's own lack of confidence can put up walls around them. He/she will unintentionally send signals that they are not interested in friendship. They withdraw because they are afraid of being rejected. I'm not saying you do this, but it's worth asking yourself if you might be.
I've had people I've known who have passed away, and it was too late that I realized I hadn't seized the opportunities I had to ensure that they knew they were appreciated. I don't know you aside from this board, but I'm quite sure there are people in your community who feel that way about you.
My other thought is that sometimes a person's own lack of confidence can put up walls around them. He/she will unintentionally send signals that they are not interested in friendship. They withdraw because they are afraid of being rejected. I'm not saying you do this, but it's worth asking yourself if you might be.
Riverwolf
Member
Hey Oats, I would not have a problem to hang with you. Thing is, besides sitting on a bench feeding birds, you got to have stuff in common. Just think of stuff you like to do and look in that direction. Long time ago a tragic event caused me to put up a big wall. Much later I found that if you say no to invites long enough, well they just stop coming. Maybe you need to invite youself in?
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elijah23
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I enjoy being alone. I go to choir practice on Thursday nights and enjoy my fellowship there. I go to church on Sundays and enjoy that fellowship. I visit seniors on behalf of my church and enjoy that. I drive to Oregon to visit my brother and sister each year and enjoy that. I work with a lot of people and enjoy the people I work with.
But I enjoy my solitude.
I am never alone, really. The Lord is always with me, just like he is always with all of us.
Pizzaguy
Member
Oats,
I've gone so far as to leave my church after 8 or 9 years - only the second time I've done this in my life. But, fact is, I was the ONLY single person in my church of about 90 people. I just didn't fit in.
I started at a new church last Sunday, went to the singles class and had managed to pick the one Sunday a month that they go to lunch together after church!
I wish I'd left years ago, not really mad at anyone, just wish I'd left and found people with the same life situation I have.
I've gone so far as to leave my church after 8 or 9 years - only the second time I've done this in my life. But, fact is, I was the ONLY single person in my church of about 90 people. I just didn't fit in.
I started at a new church last Sunday, went to the singles class and had managed to pick the one Sunday a month that they go to lunch together after church!
I wish I'd left years ago, not really mad at anyone, just wish I'd left and found people with the same life situation I have.
Oats
Member
yes i agree