I agree with what scripture says about the office of an Elder and a Pastor as being a position of a man that is called of God as they being the head of the house, whether it be God's house in the assembling or their own homes as a man is to take Spiritually authority being the head over the family. But, yet women have their equal place in God's ministry within the body of Christ as how can we silence a woman that God has called and also equipped to teach to teach His word to others. I would prefer sitting under an anointed man teaching having Godly authority over me, but yet we can not silence the woman God has also called to teach His word.
Women definitely have an equal place with men before God but they don't occupy the same roles as men do. This is evident all throughout the record of the Bible. There are exceptions, such as Deborah, who held the position of judge of Israel because the men would not. A "normal" state-of-affairs - that is, the circumstance intended by God - would have seen a man in the role, however, as in
every other case recorded in Judges. Only men were installed in the role of priests of Israel, as God had commanded. Only men governed the nation of Israel and Judah as kings; there was never a queen over Israel. Very few women, comparatively, were made prophets by God. I think those mentioned in Scripture could be counted on one hand: Miriam, Deborah, Huldah, Noadiah, and Anna.
Do these facts mean women are
less than men? Not in a
qualitative sense, no. Women are, in God's eyes, just as valuable, just as vital to humanity and the Church, as are men. But,
quantitatively, women are not equal to men. For example, the amount of strength of an average woman is, generally, not equal to that of the average man. Generally, men are faster, and bigger than women, too. This quantitative difference has been lately highlighted in awful fashion as men posing as women have competed against them, winning handily against their female opponents and even badly damaging them (as in the case of mixed- gender MMA fighting). Regardless, spiritually, men and women are one in Christ, united together in him, called to conformity
to him, not to identicality of roles, in all things. (
Romans 8:29; 2 Corinthians 3:18)
Feminism has infected Christian thinking very powerfully, within the Church encroaching systematically and seriously into roles God has reserved only for men, promoting a kind of equality between the sexes that does violence to the explicit command of the Bible. Feminism sees any difference between men and women as indicative of inequality and thus necessarily of injustice; it cannot tolerate as a basic principle of its ideology that any role a man occupies is off-limits to women. But this isn't God's view. As I pointed out in my last post to this thread, He very clearly and explicitly sets aside the role of Elder/Pastor for men.
This does not mean women who are gifted to teach must never do so within the Body of Believers, only that they are not free to do so in violation of scriptural constraints. They may teach children and other women and
exhort men, but they are never to hold a position of spiritual authority over men, preaching to them, instructing them on spiritual matters from the role of an Elder/Pastor.
"Let your women keep silence in the churches: for it is not permitted unto them to speak; but they are commanded to be under obedience, as also saith the law" (
1 Corinthians 14:34).
"Let the woman learn in silence with all subjection. But I suffer not a woman to teach, nor to usurp authority over the man, but to be in silence" (
1 Timothy 2:11-12).
In these verses, Paul cannot be addressing women who were in the ministry, but rather those in the congregation who were out of order. How do we know this? We have many such proofs, many from Paul himself. Here is a partial list of women who were all in influential positions of leadership in the early church.
What you've offered here is a false dichotomy. There aren't only the two options you've offered concerning to whom Paul was writing in the verse you offered. The law Paul mentions in
1 Corinthians 14:34 was not confined in its scope only to female laity who were "out of order," but encompassed
all Jewish women.
And Paul's words to Timothy address women in a clearly universal way, offering no qualification to the scope of his command about them, but justifying, instead, his command with reasoning that could not be more general in its character:
1 Timothy 2:11-14 (NASB)
11 A woman must quietly receive instruction with entire submissiveness.
12 But I do not allow a woman to teach or exercise authority over a man, but to remain quiet.
13 For it was Adam who was first created, and then Eve.
14 And it was not Adam who was deceived, but the woman being deceived, fell into transgression.
Paul refers to Eve here as representative of all women, arguing for his prohibition concerning women from the example of Eve.
Pheobe (
Romans 16:1-2): This woman was a deaconess of the church in Cenchrea, who was beloved of Paul and many other Christians for the help she gave to them. She filled an important position of leadership. It would be a difficult stretch of the imagination to say that this woman fulfilled her duties without ever speaking in the church!
Well, what does Scripture actually say? Will you force into what is recorded of Phoebe your own ideas, or confine yourself only to what is actually written of her? Was Phoebe acknowledged as a Pastor/Elder? No. A deacon, perhaps, but not an Elder/Pastor. Does Scripture say that she made public addresses to the church at Rome? No. Paul describes her only - though, repeatedly - as a servant/helper (
diakonos - deacon, servant/
prostatis - patroness, protectress, in Greek). That's it. And Paul doesn't encourage those receiving Phoebe to obey her teaching, or submit themselves to her spiritual authority. No, they are only to help her serve.