Dealing with criticism

[jasoncran]

I will say this. I have done the self loathing thing so long that unless its really something that bothers me I don't know when I do it. it doesn't bother me to receive corrective training or criticism in the army. yes I do care but if its say like backing up a trailer and others poke at me. then I loose my mind. or if its the martial arts its bad. with the arts and even turning wrenches I have learned when I fail its the process by which I learn and I try not to be as hard on myself.

 

[Rollo Tamasi]

Claudya, I'm always so critical.
How do you put up with me?

 

[Claudya]

Claudya, I'm always so critical.
How do you put up with me?

You don't come across very critical to me. We have different opinions on some things, but that's fine.
If someone in this forum would be criticising me really hard I could still tell myself that it's because of the cultural gap or so...

 

[WordsintoHarmony]

I’ve been criticized since going to school. I could not handle it emotionally sometimes. It’s no fun when others your age does not accept you. To try to get rid of this criticism I had to try to fit in with everyone else. I did get a lot of it out of the way. But criticism never disappeared. I guess this is a lesson being criticized is just a part of Life. Sometime I take it well. Other times I’ve felt like I needed to snap back. I think however like many Christians here we try to listen to God first. Sometimes we use Gods words but with also hurtful intentions underneath getting back at criticism.

I think it is something the Bible is trying to teach us to be under control even like our temper. Even like our fear. Recently I was on another broad. I was being criticized. I told the person he can disbelieve what I said. In the post he does not have to agree. Yet time after time he kept coming back at me. Why did I post that? I wanted to resolve peace somehow. So I wrote to the Administrator to please delete this whole thread I started. . One poster is not letting the issue go. I don’t need to be proven to be right. I don’t want to remain in this continuous battle. .

Everyone is criticized. If you are the kindest of saints others will still speak wrong about you. If you are doing drugs and playing Rock music you will get criticized. If you are the Devil you will get criticism. If you are or were God you would get criticized.

The movie critic Roger Ebert had those who were criticized against sis way of being a movie critic. . It is also said we can be our own worse Critic. . But God is the only one of all being the most unique. God does not and never does criticize His own self. God does not focus on his mistakes since God does not have any. God therefore can be our only example. To learn from Gods word not to eliminate criticism since in this world it is absolutely impossible. We can only with Gods help try to keep ourselves under control. .

I don’t think we always succeed. We just have to keep trying to improve our way of handling this. Remember though Jesus was hated by those who did even till his Death. Some will or may pursue after you and maybe in these cases if one can to stay out of their way. You will know when you confront them they want to always put you in the wrong. When a Christian matures they know at times some of these battles are just not worth fighting for. Dust off your sandals. Don’t let them get the best of you. I think that is what the moderator’s are here for. They moderate and they try to keep thing in harmony and balance.

 

[Edward]

It is also said we can be our own worse Critic.

So true, and yet I suspect this is a deception on our part. Did Jesus not say it is finished? Is it not written that our sins are not remembered by God? That we have been washed clean?

What is the first thing Adam did after he ate from the tree? He became self conscious, seen that he was naked and tried to cover his shame by sewing fig leaves together. If we could only see ourselves as God sees us...we might be in for a big surprise.

I don't think God sees our sin, just our potential. He wants to bring us back into alignment with His truth. The fact is, we are redeemed, washed clean. We only need to believe it and with us having a guilty conscience, it makes it hard to grasp that.