Difficult mothers

[poetofparables]

Do you have a difficult mother? One who nag's, worries and guilt trips you everytime you talk to her. Is she constantly judging you, and disapproving of everything you do. Does she treat you like a 8 year old child, and never listens to a word you say.

Do you have a mother like this, because I do and I don't know what I'm going to do.

 

[Knotical]

It is hard to honor this type of parent. My mother is not as bad as this, but does use passive aggressiveness to her advantage. The thing about this to find a way to honor her while making it clear you will not cater to this kind of behavior.

 

[Willie T]

Are we supposed to be surprised? I'm pretty sure this is standard mother behavior.

 

[poetofparables]

Are we supposed to be surprised? I'm pretty sure this is standard mother behavior.

lol. That's very true, I guess for lots of people.

 

[Willie T]

I doubt, very seriously, if I have even known anyone who has not said something similar about their mother.

 

[poetofparables]

It is hard to honor this type of parent. My mother is not as bad as this, but does use passive aggressiveness to her advantage. The thing about this to find a way to honor her while making it clear you will not cater to this kind of behavior.

I think I know what I have to do but it will hurt her terribly bad.

 

[poetofparables]

I doubt, very seriously, if I have even known anyone who has not said something similar about their mother.

K.

 

[Christ_empowered]

I've learned to just accept a lot of my mother's behavior. The nagging and stuff has gotten worse as we've both gotten older. There are more moments of sweetness than there have been in years, so that's a definite plus. I think you just have to try to accept your family where they are at this point in their lives and move forward, unless its straight up abusive.

 

[reba]

Are we supposed to be surprised? I'm pretty sure this is standard mother behavior.

 

[reba]

moms are only people .. people have problems ... moms dads kids ....

 

[poetofparables]

I've learned to just accept a lot of my mother's behavior. The nagging and stuff has gotten worse as we've both gotten older. There are more moments of sweetness than there have been in years, so that's a definite plus. I think you just have to try to accept your family where they are at this point in their lives and move forward, unless its straight up abusive.

Ok let me (Can't find word) what if you're mother is so toxic that it caused you to contemplate suicide. What then.

 

[Christ_empowered]

oh...wow...I'm not a therapist or whatever, but its probably time to consider cutting back on the time you spend with her.

 

[poetofparables]

oh...wow...I'm not a therapist or whatever, but its probably time to consider cutting back on the time you spend with her.

Yeah.

 

[poetofparables]

That's her alright.

 

[Willie T]

Ok let me (Can't find word) what if you're mother is so toxic that it caused you to contemplate suicide. What then.

Beats contemplating murder.

Seriously though, if you concentrate on alternative solutions (be creative, you're smart), you will find that the aggravation level will subside. What we focus upon is what we help magnify. I'm sure you know the old Cherokee tale about the two wolves within us....... (Google it) Well, it's not only true, but also, Biblical.
http://www.firstpeople.us/FP-Html-Legends/TwoWolves-Cherokee.html

 

[poetofparables]

Beats contemplating murder.

Seriously though, if you concentrate on alternative solutions (be creative, you're smart), you will find that the aggravation level will subside. What we focus upon is what we help magnify. I'm sure you know the old Cherokee tale about the two wolves within us....... (Google it) Well, it's not only true, but also, Biblical.

Two wolves hmm, me got to look that up after this post.

 

[poetofparables]

http://www.nanticokeindians.org/tale_of_two_wolves.cfm

 

[poetofparables]

That tale of the two wolves is profound.

 

[Willie T]

Try this link... it goes a little deeper.
http://www.firstpeople.us/FP-Html-Legends/TwoWolves-Cherokee.html

 

[Willie T]

That tale of the two wolves is profound.

The Bible: "As a man thinketh, so is he."

And....... Philippians 4:8 GOD’S WORD Translation (GW)
8 Finally, brothers and sisters, keep your thoughts on whatever is right or deserves praise: things that are true, honorable, fair, pure, acceptable, or commendable.