If the calvinist is right, it doesn’t matter. But fortunately they aren’t and it does. The Devil demanded to have Peter, but Jesus prayed for him. Why in either case if no one violates free will? It’s because free will means just that, FREE choice. Each man has the power to choose between options.We pray, among other things, that the option God offers becomes attractive to them or that their need for Christ becomes real and they choose Him.
Why do you think I don’t understand that? I understand it better than most calvinists as they generally refuse to see what they theology means.
Your description, for example, means it’s all a game where we are all pawns just manipulated through life. The “means to the end” was determined before birth. And those condemned to hell are equally manipulated with no means to a good end from a predetermined source.
Life is then meaningless. We just live out a preprogrammed set of experiences being deeply deceived as to the freedom we feel. It’s all a cruel game. The pain we suffer from choices we made are really choices your god made for us. No hope. No way out. No learning. No wisdom.
This, I bet, you do not understand.
The alternative is the following. God has particular ways He acts in individual lives and with mankind in general. Each man has freedom to make choices among options. Those options vary greatly from person to person. God calls each man at some point drawing them, but they have freedom to respond as they choose. This, I know, is scarier than the relatively childish view that God controls those choices, as it put the ball into our court, as it were.
But this responsibility we carry is what makes life worth living. It’s not a game. We aren’t manipulated from above. But we are deeply loved. It’s deeply satisfying.