So, practically, what does all of the foregoing mean? When I'm faced with temptation to resume the sin>confession cycle, to fall again into sin, what do I do? In Romans 6, the apostle Paul gives two basic commands we are always to follow when confronted by the invitation to sin:
1.) By faith, count on the truth of your union with Christ and the resulting freedom from Self and sin. (Romans 6:11)
2.) Yield (or present) yourself to God as His humble bond-servant. (Romans 6:13)
Every sin always invites us to do the same two things. Whether it is a porn addiction, or a food addiction, or the impulse to become enraged, or to be lazy, or to be entertained with demonic/immoral things, or whatever, a born-again person always does the same two things when he sins: 1.) He denies who he is in Jesus, acting in a (sinful) manner contrary to his true, "new creation" identity as God's child and 2.) he stands in God's place in his life, following his own will and way rather than God's.
Because every sin always entails these two things, the apostle Paul addresses them directly and in so doing gives to us the core of God's "way of escape" (1 Corinthians 10:13) from the sin>confession cycle. So, then, when a Christian is, say, tempted to look at porn, the way of their escape from this temptation begins with rehearsing the truth about who they are in Christ: "I am dead to sin and alive unto God. My old Self and sin have no power over me."
On the heels of this declaration of the truth about oneself, conscious, explicit, perhaps even out-loud submission to God must follow. "God, please control my desires, thoughts and actions. Not my will but yours be done. I submit myself to your authority and control."
But, then, the tempting impulse immediately resumes. What now? It hasn't worked! The call to sin continues! The apostle Paul's "way of escape" is useless. Well, hang on. If the proper response to the temptation the first time it appeared was the above, why wouldn't it be the proper response the second, third, fourth and fifth time? You see, the Real Battle of Christian living isn't to force oneself to "live right," to make oneself act contrary to one's desires, but to STAY SUBMITTED TO GOD. All of what God has promised to do in the lives of His children is predicated on their constant surrender to His will and way, to the control of His Spirit.
Romans 8:14
14 For all who are being led by the Spirit of God, these are sons of God.
Galatians 5:16,18
16 But I say, walk by the Spirit, and you will not carry out the desire of the flesh...
18 But if you are led by the Spirit, you are not under the Law.
Romans 11:36 - 12:1
36 For from Him and through Him and to Him are all things. To Him be the glory forever. Amen.
1 Therefore I urge you, brethren, by the mercies of God, to present your bodies a living and holy sacrifice, acceptable to God, which is your spiritual service of worship.
James 4:6-7
6 ...“God opposes the proud, but gives grace to the humble.”
7 Submit yourselves therefore to God...
James 4:10
10 Humble yourselves before the Lord, and he will exalt you.
1 Peter 5:5-6
5 ...“God opposes the proud but gives grace to the humble.”
6 Humble yourselves, therefore, under the mighty hand of God so that at the proper time he may exalt you,
Micah 6:8
8 He has told you, O man, what is good; And what does the LORD require of you But to do justice, to love kindness, And to walk humbly with your God?
God will never transform a rebel, which is what we are, born-again or not, when we are not consciously, constantly putting ourselves under His control.
But when we are walking with God as inferior to Superior, branch to Vine, sheep to Shepherd, child to heavenly Father, vessel and servant to Master, when God is the Boss, when He is our Lord and Ruler, then all that He is will fill us, and change us, and bring us into joyful, holy, daily fellowship with Himself. But God waits upon our conscious submission to Himself to make us like His Son, Jesus Christ. He will not impose Himself on us, He will not force us to His will and way; we must choose - by our constant submission to Him - God's holy life and transforming work.
When we've given over the "steering wheel" of our life to the Holy Spirit, he steers us into holiness and truth, going to work first upon our desires, the primal, directing core of our living, changing them, bringing them into proper proportion, dissolving evil desires and instilling new, godly desires in us. As he does, we come to desire what God desires for us, we hunger for His word, we want to be holy, we want to know God more and more, we want to love His Church and to share the increasingly awesome experience we have with Him with others. In all of this, we become more and more like Jesus (Romans 8:29), glorifying God as in inevitable result (1 Corinthians 10:31).
But first, there is the business of "possessing the land of promise" which always involves confronting and defeating the "great cities" and "giants" of sin that bar believers from the spiritual "land" in Jesus that is "overflowing with milk and honey." It turns out, though, the fight isn't actually ours to wage. We can't beat these opponents in-and-of ourselves; we're far too weak. We need God to fight for us, which He is quite willing to do - but on His terms, not ours. See above.
Perhaps the hardest thing to understand in all of what God does to bring about godliness in us is that He changes us, we don't change ourselves for Him. We really are just vessels in and through whom God moves, by the Holy Spirit manifesting His life and work in us.
Romans 8:13
13 for if you are living according to the flesh, you must die; but if by the Spirit you are putting to death the deeds of the body, you will live.
Philippians 1:6
6 For I am confident of this very thing, that He who began a good work in you will perfect it until the day of Christ Jesus.
Philippians 2:13
13 for it is God who is at work in you, both to will and to work for His good pleasure.
Philippians 4:13
13 I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.
2 Corinthians 3:18
18 But we all, with unveiled face, beholding as in a mirror the glory of the Lord, are being transformed into the same image from glory to glory, just as by the Lord, the Spirit.
Ephesians 3:16
16 that He would grant you, according to the riches of His glory, to be strengthened with power through His Spirit in the inner man,
Ephesians 6:10
10 Finally, be strong in the Lord and in the strength of His might.
1 Thessalonians 5:23-24
23 Now may the God of peace Himself sanctify you entirely; and may your spirit and soul and body be preserved complete, without blame at the coming of our Lord Jesus Christ.
24 Faithful is He who calls you, and He also will bring it to pass.
Jude 1:24-25
24 Now to Him who is able to keep you from stumbling, and to make you stand in the presence of His glory blameless with great joy,
25 to the only God our Savior, through Jesus Christ our Lord, be glory, majesty, dominion and authority, before all time and now and forever. Amen.
God changes us; we can't ever change ourselves - not really, not in the way God intends we should be changed and for the purposes He desires to fulfill in our transformation. And so, when we finally see that a life lived in the endless sin>confession cycle is entirely unlike the life God intends for us to live with Him, and we begin to live in submission to Him and, by faith, stand unmoved upon what He says is true of us, we are astonished by the result. For this kind of life with God is exactly the opposite of the horrible, wrenching, sin-plagued experience we're used to.
As we fight the Real Battle of the Christian life and refuse to move out from under God's control, God's power is demonstrated in our life such that the terrible fight with temptation that we're used to is gone and we are moved in God's direction with such profundity and power that we often don't realize we are being moved. Only much later do we recognize that a crossroad of temptation is far behind and we've travelled with God further down the Narrow Way into holiness and fellowship with Himself. We aren't barely hanging by our fingernails, straining and striving to eke out each step toward God, our flesh, the World and the devil all blowing with gale force upon us and repeatedly knocking us flat. Instead, when God changes us, we "mount up with wings as eagles" and go "from strength to strength" (Isaiah 28:31; Psalm 84:5-7), laughing often in astonishment at how different, how much more enlivening and easy, it is to be transformed by God rather than by ourselves.