How to become a submissive wife?

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Hi everyone...just checking in.

My husband and I have been doing well. He's very impressed with the changes I've made. We argue far less often and when we do, we get over it rather quickly. It's just not worth the hassle; I would rather be happy than right.

God is working in our lives together. My husband has confided a possible career development in me. I feel honored to be the woman behind the successful man; it means so much that my husband trusts my judgement. He was thinking of going into our retirement fund but I gently reminded my husband that he was recently talking about wanting to put more money into it. It wouldn't make sense to take money out just now as that would be counterproductive. My husband agreed that my opinion made sense.

This is exactly what people forget about submission in a marriage; it goes both ways and the head consults with the neck on big decisions. The neck can turn the head anyway she wants. :lol
 
Mrs. Submission said:
Hi everyone...just checking in.

My husband and I have been doing well. He's very impressed with the changes I've made. We argue far less often and when we do, we get over it rather quickly. It's just not worth the hassle; I would rather be happy than right.

God is working in our lives together. My husband has confided a possible career development in me. I feel honored to be the woman behind the successful man; it means so much that my husband trusts my judgement. He was thinking of going into our retirement fund but I gently reminded my husband that he was recently talking about wanting to put more money into it. It wouldn't make sense to take money out just now as that would be counterproductive. My husband agreed that my opinion made sense.

This is exactly what people forget about submission in a marriage; it goes both ways and the head consults with the neck on big decisions. The neck can turn the head anyway she wants. :lol
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There is nothing to fear when two people surrender to each other Mrs Submission, so long as it's what both people desire.
 
selihah said:
I was wondering, where in the bible did God explicitly say a wife must submit to her husband?
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Eph 5:22 Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord.
Col 3:18 Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as it is fit in the Lord.
 
Ok, but again I ask where did God say such a thing? In times past it is written that God spoke giving the whole nation of Israel a set of commandments. Those words which God spoke were then written down by Moses and Joshua and are kept in what is now known as the Torah. No where in Torah does God's instruction include a wife is to submit to her husband.

Why is it then, that it isnt until the new testement that such a law came into being? And why is authorship of this new addition given by a man called Paul and not by God?

(edit) Dont get me wrong. Im not saying you cant be a submissive wife. If thats what works in your marriage thats great and hope you have a long and wonderful life with your beloved. But the idea that Paul had that all women must submit to their husbands seems to me to be more in line with tradition than it does with anything God said He expects of a couple.

I understand that a wife/woman was created to keep company with the man and to be a helpmate. A helpmate to me means to me she is to work and strive together with the man. I dont find anything which indicates she is to be subservient.
 
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selihah said:
Ok, but again I ask where did God say such a thing? In times past it is written that God spoke giving the whole nation of Israel a set of commandments. Those words which God spoke were then written down by Moses and Joshua and are kept in what is now known as the Torah. No where in Torah does God's instruction include a wife is to submit to her husband.

Why is it then, that it isnt until the new testement that such a law came into being? And why is authorship of this new addition given by a man called Paul and not by God?

(edit) Dont get me wrong. Im not saying you cant be a submissive wife. If thats what works in your marriage thats great and hope you have a long and wonderful life with your beloved. But the idea that Paul had that all women must submit to their husbands seems to me to be more in line with tradition than it does with anything God said He expects of a couple.

I understand that a wife/woman was created to keep company with the man and to be a helpmate. A helpmate to me means to me she is to work and strive together with the man. I dont find anything which indicates she is to be subservient.
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I don't know where of it the Old Testament says anything about wife's having to be submissive, you like don't see the New Testament as authoritative?
 
No. I see Torah as authorative. What makes it comforting for me to believe that is God revealed himself at Mt. Sinai to the whole nation of Israel, that great multitude which came out of Egypt, everyone of them saw and heard who it was that was speaking to Moses. This was done so Israel wouldn't think Moses was up there making up stuff up on his own.

On the otherhand Pauls lone stance appears to stem more from rabbinic tradition than anything I have ever come across in Torah.

Thats just my two cents. Like I said, if being submissive is what works in your marriage then all the more power to you, may God bless you with a long and happy life. The arguement I have is that Paul appears to expect this of all women. Whereas according to what I have found in the five books is, a woman isn't a servant but a partner, someone who helps and keeps company (socialize) with the man.

Marrige in my opinion is a very dynamic and sometimes trying partnership. From my own observation each person in a marriage I believe has certain strengths which contribute to it. Each should be dependant on the other, nothing should be supressed because one happens to be a woman.
 
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selihah said:
No. I see Torah as authorative. What makes it comforting for me to believe that is God revealed himself at Mt. Sinai to the whole nation of Israel, that great multitude which came out of Egypt, everyone of them saw and heard who it was that was speaking to Moses. This was done so Israel wouldn't think Moses was up there making up stuff up on his own.

On the otherhand Pauls lone stance appears to stem more from rabbinic tradition than anything I have ever come across in Torah.

Thats just my two cents. Like I said, if being submissive is what works in your marriage then all the power to you, may God bless you with a live a long and happy life. The arguement I have is that Paul appears to expect this of all women. Whereas according to what I have found in the five books is, a woman isn't a servant but a partner, someone who helps and keeps company (socialize) with the man.
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In my mind being submissive to someone is to surrender my own opinions to learn from them.
 
Lol, I suppose that can be true for me as well. I cant count the number of times my wife has been right. Thankfully I have the good sense to recognize and admit when she is. It usually stops me dead in my tracks and I just roll with it. Thank God she can see what I can't and be able to confront me with it. Rather than just sitting in the corner all submissive like letting me stumble and make a fool of myself. Call it what you want but we got a good partnership, we depend on each other, a lot.
 
selihah said:
Lol, I suppose that can be true for me as well. I cant count the number of times my wife has been right. Thankfully I have the good sense to recognize and admit when she is. It usually stops me dead in my tracks and I just roll with it. Thank God she can see what I can't and be able to confront me with it. Rather than just sitting in the corner all submissive like letting me stumble and make a fool of myself. Call it what you want but we got a good partnership, we depend on each other, a lot.
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You get used to be wrong after a while, then you begin to look for it, then you desire it, then you end up falling in love with it.
 
If I understood what you wrote correctly, then sorry if I mislead you. Being wrong isnt always an easy pill to swallow, neither is our relationship a perfect one. We do have arguments which can be quite heated. However this is one man who is glad his wife doesn't sit in the corner being a subservient bump on a log. But has the strength and good sense to confront me when she feels strongly about things. I dont fall in love with being wrong, I hate being wrong and though I hate being wrong I really do love the make-up sex afterwards. :)

Some women may prefer to be subservient and let their husband, right or wrong, make all the big decisions. Some men may prefer a woman like that too. Me, I prefer a woman/wife who is willing to speak her mind and to contribute to making decisions because they affect her too.

No two marriages are the same because no two people are the same. Therefore I think it ill advised to to place all women in the same box.
 
selihah said:
If I understood what you wrote correctly, then sorry if I mislead you. Being wrong isnt always an easy pill to swallow, neither is our relationship a perfect one. We do have arguments which can be quite heated. However this is one man who is glad his wife doesn't sit in the corner being a subservient bump on a log. But has the strength and good sense to confront me when she feels strongly about things. I dont fall in love with being wrong, I hate being wrong and though I hate being wrong I really do love the make-up sex afterwards. :)

Some women may prefer to be subservient and let their husband, right or wrong, make all the big decisions. Some men may prefer a woman like that too. Me, I prefer a woman/wife who is willing to speak her mind and to contribute to making decisions because they affect her too.

No two marriages are the same because no two people are the same. Therefore I think it ill advised to to place all women in the same box.
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Well if you hate being wrong you'll never learn.
 
Just because I am submissive, it doesn't mean that I quietly swallow all of my opinions and do not speak my mind.
My husband always takes my needs and viewpoint into consideration when there is a decision to be made.
For example, my husband was contacted by the car dealership where he bought our last car from. They offered a trade in for a new model of the same vehicle and a smaller payment each month. My husband loved this idea and he called me from the dealership to ask for my opinion.
I enjoy the freedom of not having to make huge decisions by myself anymore.
It is liberating to be a submissive woman when married to a good man.
 
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Though one may be overpowered by another, two can withstand him.
And a threefold cord is not quickly broken. Ecclesiastes 4:12 NKJV
 
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