I'm going to stop discussing this because it gets to a point where I feel like I'm fighting with a person's faith and I dislike how this feels.I understand your concerns.
Before I believed the Reformed teaching, I knew about election, predestination and the like. I have heard many people mention about God making men robots but never thought anything of it.
Now that I fully embrace the Sovereignty of God and the doctrines of grace, I do not see myself at all like a robot.
As I have stated earlier, anything I do good comes from God, all the wrong I do is from self.
I understand this does not make sense to you and does not answer your question. The whole purpose of the existence of Gods people, is to bring Him glory.
God decreeing all things that come to pass, even the lint that falls of my pants, is mind boggling to me. Just like the Trinity and Jesus being fully human and fully God.
The Bible teaches all this, I cannot deny it.
I just want to say that God can only receive the glory that He can appreciate if we ourselves do the good of our own free will. Not because God so determined that we do it.
Next time around!