Compatible free will is what Calvinists believe. It's VERY deterministic. It means that God makes you want to want what He wishes. You THINK it's your decision, but really it's God willing you to have HIS desire and to want that. IOW,,, He makes your will totally compatible with His.
If I began relationship with God at a time when I was a God-hater, then God had to make my will compatible with His in some way. I don't know if your term "totally" is an exaggeration or not, since I don't know what doctrine you have in mind. But if God changes the disposition of our hearts, then God is changing us in a way to make us surrender to His will.
But was it without our permission? If so, then this IS determinism. What does determinism mean to you? It means God determines everything with no input from us.
I'm not sure about the term "determinism," since I have not studied the subject, therefore I'm not going to agree with this statement. I would much rather use the Biblical term "predestined."
It might be that you are exaggerating the point, using typical judgments that people make on the subject, such as "everything" and "no input" etc. The input I had to my salvation was that I was a God-hater, and I had no intention whatsoever to become a Christian. I told people I was a Christian only to keep them off my back. I didn't want the sales pressure of people trying to evangelize me.
But God met me where I was. From my point of view, it was a threat of hell-fire, and a voice from heaven that instilled an urgency of impending doom. I went to my knees trembling and surrendered to the One far more powerful than I. I don't see that I had any choice in the matter. I can't describe what that's like. But the result is that I had a drive inside me to understand God and the nature of my relationship with Him. I had an intense commitment to study the scripture and understand what it meant, especially after seeing that questions I had couldn't be answered by Christians I fellowshiped with.
The long-term result was that I began to see God's special love for me and other Christians. I began to understand what it meant to both love and fear God. The bottom line is that I see myself in the Eph. 2:5 description that Paul makes of spiritual rebirth. It is how I read the term predestined, which seems to match how the dictionary defines it.
This is what I'm talking about when I say "without our permission." If God asked my permission to save me before His divine imposition, I would have rejected the idea (and did many times, since I was one of those many called but not chosen before He interrupted me). Of course, after my heart was changed, and I saw the goodness of God due to Him revealing Himself in powerful ways, I gave "permission" - that is, I was very glad God imposed His will over mine at the time He did so. After God changed my heart through the knowledge of my Savior, then obviously my will became His in that matter, since I surrendered to Him.
My point is, first came God's predestination of me, then came my "free will" choice to serve Him. I see this both in the teaching of the apostles and my own experience.
If we have no control over being born again that means God is deciding for us. Again,,,this is determinism. If God's spirit does what it wills with us, and we have no choice...what does this tell you? Do YOU believe in free will? Obviously not.
That's how you are defining it, not how the Bible defines it. I assert that you are seeing what I wrote through a bias. It seems to me that determinism means that every decision made is determined, at least that's what I have heard. Again, I'm not talking about that. I'm only talking about the decision to be saved by means of the gospel message.
The Bible says that before we were saved, we were blinded by the evil one, could not see the light of the gospel, held captive to do Satan's will, slaves to sin, in bondage to the fleshly nature, not able to understand the things of the Spirit, lovers of darkness and shunning the light, and many other ways of saying we could not and would not be saved unless God intervened. Jesus said "with men it is impossible."
But "with God..." - this means it takes an act of God to save a person. If my will was in bondage to the devil and would by no means obey the gospel, then God has to perform a supernatural act in the spiritual realm, and change something in my heart, such that I am enabled to hear the gospel and believe. It is very obvious to me that God does not do that for every person who hears the preaching. Many people go away from the message as unbelievers. Paul describes this in 1 Cor. 2 and elsewhere. "To the Greek it is foolishness, and to the Jew a stumbling block." Therefore God had to decide to save me in spite of me. He did so by means of the gospel message in conjunction with His divine imposition.
So then, if you are trying to say that your will was free enough to assess spiritual things, namely the gospel message, to judge its goodness, to desire its blessings, and to believe its promises, enough to surrender to God, on your own, without God's help, because you think your will was completely neutral before regeneration, and not in bondage to Satan at the time, then this is where our paths diverge. If this is your stand, then I think you are standing against clear teaching of the Bible. If you judge me as one who doesn't "believe in free will" then so be it.
I liken people who believe in "free will" as I describe above, with evolutionary extrapolators. What people who believe in macroevolution do is that they see some small changes among species or varieties of creatures, and they extrapolate the idea beyond all reason, to conclude that man evolved from a primordial slime. They see no limits or boundaries to their fertile imagination.
In the same way, many people see the minuscule and extremely limited natural ability in humans to make decisions, and extrapolate it beyond all reason to claim that they can break themselves free of bondage to the devil in the spiritual realm, and decide to be born of the Spirit, which is something that only happens by an act of God, according to John 3:8.
Predestination is not scriptural...it's found in scripture but not for WHO is to be saved...but HOW we're to be saved.
Eph 1:4"
just as He chose us in Him before the foundation of the world, that we would be holy and blameless before Him, in love" - the WHO that God chooses is US. I think you err in your interpretation here. The statement definitely specifies a WHO.
I explained about compatible free will....you yourself stated above that God will make us want what He wants...that's exactly what it is.
But you yourself stated that the Spirit makes us want to obey God. Are you changing your tune now?
Finally, I'm not ready to debate Calvinism right now, as I haven't studied it, and it seems to be very involved. I'm here to discuss what the Bible says, not what Calvinists say.
TD