When asked why his disciples didn't fast, Jesus replied that the friends of the bridegroom don't do that when they are in his company. Jesus called his friends just that: friends. But that does not limit them any more than if I were to tell my wife (I'm not married, just saying)
"You are my friend."
We have more than one role to play here. Yes: servants. Yes: friends. It is my hope to be able to see, to glimpse, the one whom He shall call Wife. That depends on the times which no man knows but it is an enduring hope. We can see the season. Each will do well to heed that advice given to the virgins regarding their lamps.
What may we do without light? Seek the oil today that we are not found without.
Proverbs 31:10-31
A good wife who can find?
She is far more precious than jewels. The heart of her husband trusts in her, and he will have no lack of gain. She does him good, and not harm, all the days of her life. She seeks wool and flax, and works with willing hands. She is like the ships of the merchant, she brings her food from afar. She rises while it is yet night and provides food for her household and tasks for her maidens.
She considers a field and buys it;
with the fruit of her hands she plants a vineyard. She girds her loins with strength and makes her arms strong. She perceives that her merchandise is profitable. Her lamp does not go out at night. She puts her hands to the distaff, and her hands hold the spindle.
She opens her hand to the poor, and reaches out her hands to the needy.
She is not afraid of snow for her household, for all her household are clothed in scarlet. She makes herself coverings; her clothing is fine linen and purple. Her husband is known in the gates, when he sits among the elders of the land. She makes linen garments and sells them; she delivers girdles to the merchant.
Strength and dignity are her clothing, and she laughs at the time to come.
She opens her mouth with wisdom, and the teaching of kindness is on her tongue. She looks well to the ways of her household, and does not eat the bread of idleness.
Her children rise up and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises her:
"Many women have done excellently, but you surpass them all."
Charm is deceitful, and beauty is vain, but a woman who fears the LORD is to be praised. Give her of the fruit of her hands, and let her works praise her in the gates.