EXACTLY. This is of course what ive been trying to say.
Where you see flaws I see benefits. But we'll just agree to disagree, or at least i will
I think you're missing my point though. In the modernist/post-modernist mind, logos is valued above all else, and eros is devalued and/or ignored. In a purely logical mode of thinking, contrasting opposites, whether its particle or wave, light or dark, self or non-self, etc, will be seen as separate. Much of logic is about putting labels and figures on things to set them apart from each other.
However, more intuitive forms of perceptions reveal the reality that opposites are in fact part of a unified whole, in that one couldn't exist without the contrast of the other. Light wouldn't be without dark, and the self couldn't exist without everything external to it.
Everything is inseparable from everything else, and that includes you, me, our surroundings, everyone else, and the whole of the cosmos. This is what I identify as the absolute, and this is what all my moral ideals are based in. Whether people know or value that they're a part of an integrated whole is beside the point. They are, and to not know this is just ignorance.
What is love? Well, its ultimately based in empathy. Why be empathetic? ...because, even though our egos can give us the illusion that were separate from everyone and everything else, we really aren't. Unconditional love, as a first principal, best respects the reality of our inseparability to others. Moral relativists tend to argue in terms of rational self interest, which I'm, in a way, doing as well. However, I'm acknowledging the truth that everyone else is an extension of my own being and visa versa. To harm others would, in effect, be me harming myself.