the dod has ruled that if I ever divorce my wife, she gets 50% of my pension. no matter if she is a BILLIONAIRE. so if we don't work out why on earth would I want her to have that? divorces get real ugly, son. real ugly and the law always favors the females. my wife can leave me and if I have the kids she gets them unless I pay a lawyer who really good to make it seem she is unfit.that is why most men just give in as that is too expensive.
the city pension works the same way. she cant be removed if after a time period. I would have to ask hr.