This is something I have noticed for several years now as hubby and I approach our 30th anniversary this winter. When we're out and about, I notice that older ladies gravitate towards my husband and try to get a smile or a look from him. When he doesn't respond to them, they then scowl at me! Not only do they do this to me, but also our daughter. It's baffling to see, really. Are these ladies so entitled that they think they're deserving of all men to be smiling at them? It's really annoying because it happens alot more than it seems it should.
I am a man very happily married since 1996. When we are out and about, although my focus is my sweet Lori, I greet ladies if they greet me, whether they be older or younger, whether I know them or not, if they do not attempt to motivate either of us with sexual distraction. I do this and have done this, except in those relatively rare moments when I have cause to think that Sweet Lori might be feeling a bit insecure about me or about us.
My question then, becomes why your husband does not respond to them. It is of Christ to be neighborly. But it is of Christ to take care of those to whom one is closest. So I'll think that is what he is doing.
Do I say something to them? Do I scowl back or just laugh at them? Also.... what to do with the flirty waitress? I dread eating out anymore because this has also gotten ridiculous. Is it me, or is it the world in general going absolutely crazy?
I don't have any way to know your history, but this has nothing to do with recent change in the world. If you wish to do well, I'll suggest that you either be neighborly, or ignore them. It sounds so far like your husband does very well indeed, that you have simply not understood, that he does not know how to help you understand. This follows whether or not you are in fact surrounded by female predators against your marriage, or not.
I have been in a place or two where I could imagine that might happen. We know one such predator who has run multiple restaurants in this town. Very friendly...and Sweet Lori knows my purposes, and has carefully helped me recognize what she is. I partly missed it at least twice, but the third time the Holy One caused me to realize what was going on. Three times over years, she walked up to us in her restaurant, in very casual, gentle, friendly, neighborly manner, and mentioned that she does sex work on the side sometimes. I'll just say she walks the part, in the most softly deceptive manner I have ever encountered, reminding me of "courtesans" one can read about, of old Italy, France, China, and other places. The Holy One brought the thought, I suggested it afterwards to Lori, and she gave me the smiling nod. Grave and terrible that situation was, and I'm no longer surprised at all that that "lady" has opened and closed at least three popular restaurants in this area over the last ten years or so.
