Absolutely right. Of course I would be much angrier (not really a strong enough word) if my daughter were raped than if my wife were raped. But that brings us straight back to the topic of emotions. But since people (not just you) want to appeal to emotions, I'd like to point out that it works both ways. Take the following example:
Suppose a single man rapes and kills a young girl and covers it up so well that he doesn't get caught until the police find some new evidence 10 years after he committed the crime. By that time, the man is married and has two children, who are 2 and 5 years old. The man has turned his life completely around and no longer uses drugs or alcohol and is good father and husband and a responsible, productive member of society. Should that man be executed, making his wife a widow and his children orphans?
You see, both sides can appeal to emotions. But that's not what we should base our views on, either for or against.
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