While I am to a degree Reformed. I attend and am a member of a Reformed Baptist Church and would affirm nearly the entire 1689, I am not inclined to defend the OP. While I know the writer of the OP is a brother in the Lord, it seemed more like rambling than a coherent defense of what Calvinists believe.
WIP, I am willing to make a post or maybe even a few posts to answer some of the questions you post below, if you wish. Of course I would expect that you would desire to reply to my posts. However, I am wondering if your questions are rhetorical? Or if they are bonifide questions? Or maybe just questions intended to direct the conversation toward proper doctrinal issues that relate to the differences between Reformed and non-reformed people?
Also, before I answer your questions (if you reply) I do want to point out an error in your first statement. When you say.... "If God made the decision to save me long before the world was created and my will has no effect on my salvation then..."
While certainly Calvinists believe that God made the decision to save me long before the world was created.
Ephesians 1:4 even as he chose us in him before the foundation of the world, that we should be holy and without blemish before him in love:
or, God ordained us to become "holy and without blemish" and this was to happen by
7 in whom we have our redemption through his blood, the forgiveness of our trespasses, according to the riches of his grace,. So yes, I would agree that Calvinists, and the Bible teach that redemption, or salvation was predetermined before the foundation of the world.
One the other hand, the 2nd part of your statement is that "my will has no effect on my salvation." I am not sure why Calvinists are so commonly misrepresented as not believing in human will. Both the Westminster and the 1689 speak of the exercise of the will in faith. That the will is related to salvation is standard Reformed doctrine." The Reformed issue is not the exercise of the will, but the question of why the choices that are made by the will are chosen.
I would say that the differences are not in human will, but in human nature. Reformed doctrine sees human nature as affected by Original Sin. So then, our will is under the slavery of Original sin, or it is under sin and the flesh.
Romans 5:12 Therefore, as through one man sin entered into the world, and death through sin; and so death passed unto all men, for that all sinned:--
The death spoken of in Romans 5 is not merely physical death, but this is also a spiritual death. It is the same death as spoken of in Ephesians 2:1.
2 And you did he make alive, when ye were dead through your trespasses and sins,
The death spoken of in Romans 5 is "
dead through your trespasses and sins." It is a spiritual death. The result of this spiritual death is that we cannot receive the things of the Spirit of God.
1 Cor 2:14 Now the natural man receiveth not the things of the Spirit of God: for they are foolishness unto him; and he cannot know them, because they are spiritually judged. In other words, we cannot receive the gospel because of our nature, and because of Original sin, because of sin nature. This is why John 6:44 says... "
44 No man can come to me, except the Father that sent me draw him: and I will raise him up in the last day.
Notice in that verse "
No man can come to me." There in is sin nature, this is the result of original sin. However, God chose to draw some. God sovereignty chose some in eternity past, and now in space/time and history he draws those chosen ones.
Yes, I know this doctrine is offensive. It states we are all in rebellion. Common objections are usually based upon the assumption that God does not have the right to judge anyone without offering him a chance. Yet in a sense, everyone has a chance because there is a revelation of God in nature.
Romans 1:20 For the invisible things of him since the creation of the world are clearly seen, being perceived through the things that are made, even his everlasting power and divinity; that they may be without excuse:
Notice the end of Romans 1:20. "
without excuse." Because of natural revelation, all are without excuse. Romans 1 goes on to speak of mankinds rejection of natural revelation, and then by Revelation 3:19 the conclusion comes....
19 Now we know that what things soever the law saith, it speaketh to them that are under the law; that every mouth may be stopped, and all the world may be brought under the judgment of God:
Every mouth is stopped, everyone is under the judgment of God, we are all as Romans 1:20 says, "without excuse." As John 6:44 says that if it were not for the special drawing of God, no one would come. Our faith is then not the work of our own rebellious, depraved, sinful nature. Faith is then the work of God in man, not the work of man for God. Notice in Phil 1:29, faith is something granted by God. Also, suffering is granted by God. So then, God is not only the sovereign source of faith, but also the sovereign source of trials of faith.
29 because to you it hath been granted in the behalf of Christ, not only to believe on him, but also to suffer in his behalf:
Above is a positive statement of where I am. It is Reformed soteriology. I appreciated your questions below. I think they are good questions and I am willing to answer them (but not in this first post). I also think it is possible that you do not want me to answer the questions, but would prefer the person who wrote the OP. I know you did address the questions to him. And that would be fine if that is your choice. But if you want me to answer the questions, please let me know if they are rhetorical, or bonifide. And also please recognize that in Reformed Theology, we do believe the will is exercised in faith, and that this exercise of our will happens because of the work of God in us.
I have a question, well, actually a few. If God made the decision to save me long before the world was created and my will has no effect on my salvation then...
Why did he choose to make it necessary for Adam to disobey?
Why did he choose to make it necessary for sin to exist?
Why did he choose to make it necessary to command his 600+ laws to Israel?
Why did he choose to make it necessary to give us the ten commandments?
Why did he choose to make it necessary (because it is not my choice) for me to sin?
Why did he choose to make it necessary for Jesus to die that I might be saved and what then am I saved from if my destiny is already chosen?
Why did he choose to make it necessary for Jesus to be born at all?
Why did he choose to make it necessary for me to hear the Gospel to be saved?
Why did he choose to make it necessary for Jesus to preach the Gospel?
Why did he choose to make it necessary to tell me to preach the Gospel to all nations?
Why did he choose to make it necessary to tell me to baptize all nations?
Why did he choose to make it necessary to tell me to be baptized?
Why did he choose to make it necessary to tell me to believe?
Why did he choose to make it necessary to tell me that I must repent?
Why did he choose to make it necessary for most to be lost?
I can probably come up with more questions but I'll stop here.