Hi Doug Brents...I don't know if anyone else has mentioned this yet (I haven't read through the 20 pages of posts yet), but this is, I think, important to point out.
There is contradictions between the first part of your post, and the second part of the post.
The first part is Biblical. ANYONE can be saved from their lost state by belief in and obedience to Christ.
The second part is not Biblical. God does not select the "lucky ones" for salvation and banish the rest from Heaven on His whim. He could, and He makes it clear that He would be within His rights as creator to do so, but He has stated that He will base the eternal destiny of each soul on the actions of that soul during this life on Earth.
Welcome to the Forum and also to this thread.
What you say above is absolutely true.
There is GREAT CONFLICT between what the bible states/teaches
and what Calvinists believe.
This thread is called Good News/Bad News to show that
God gives us the Good News....
But Calvinism gives us the Bad News.
Hope you join in.