I'd have to say YES, the God as you have described Him is not worthy of my worship and acceptance.
And since God instilled in man the need for God,,,just as Augustine (Calvin's hero) stated, we search for a God that can fill our spirit.
The Calvinist God does not match the God I find in the bible.
I'll say that at times hearing that God is Love when a person credits Him with no other attributes, it makes me wonder if they really know God at all.
This is because God is love....but He also has other attributes of character that can't be overlooked.
To answer all of the above situations (except the crucifixion of Jesus which is different) we have to remember that God is not only love and merciful...
but He is also just. The attributes and morals that man seeks are found in God and have been passed down to us. So man seeks justice because God is a God of justice.
Under your paradigm, I cannot see how God can be just.
He destroyed whole cities and populations.
He will send the vast majority of persons to hell, just as Jesus stated - the road to heaven is narrow.
Under my paradigm God can do all of the above and still be a God of love, mercy and justice.
Why? Because He has let us know what He expects from us and what we are to do to remain as His children.
All of the above were not His children.
He cannot be a just God unless He gives to every man what he deserves, which is what justice is.
How can any man deserve hell if he did nothing to merit it? If it was God that sent him there with no action on the man's part?
If God causes me to sin and then punishes me for it, how is that justice?
If I sin on my own and because I want to and decide to sin...and I end up in hell because I didn't obey God...then we can say that God is a just God.
I'd like to say that I also don't understand how SOVEREIGNTY has anything to do with free will since the reformed believe we cannot have free will because God is sovereign.
Definition of sovereign
(Entry 1 of 2)
1a: one possessing or held to possess supreme political power or sovereignty
b: one that exercises supreme authority within a limited sphere
c: an acknowledged leader : ARBITER
2: any of various gold coins of the United Kingdom
sovereign
adjective
sov·er·eign | \ ˈsä-v(ə-)rən , -vərn also ˈsə- \
variants: or less commonly sovran
Definition of sovereign (Entry 2 of 2)
1a: superlative in quality
b: of the most exalted kind : SUPREMEsovereign virtue
c: having generalized curative powersa sovereign remedy
d: of an unqualified nature : UNMITIGATEDsovereign contempt
e: having undisputed ascendancy : PARAMOUNT
2a: possessed of supreme powera sovereign ruler
b: unlimited in extent : ABSOLUTE
c: enjoying autonomy : INDEPENDENTsovereign states
3: relating to, characteristic of, or befitting a supreme ruler : ROYALa sovereign right
source: https://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/sovereign
Why can't God have all of the above AND give us free will?
I would like to say first that I am not a thorough going Calvinist, though much of what I believe Calvin did also. My point is, I am not arguing for Calvinism.
I agree that many see God as love only, which is a false picture of God.
When you say under my paradigm God cannot be just, what do you mean? What have I said that would make God unjust?
I agree that God can do all those things I described, and still be a God of love, mercy, and justice.
If God gave everyman what he deserves, everyman would go to hell. Christians included. Did Christ 'deserve' what He got at the Cross? No. He didn't get what he deserved. Was God unjust? Does man deserve to be righteous and go to Heaven? No. Man doesn't get what he deserves. Is God unjust?
I agree with you that those who go to hell are not the people of God.
You do sin on your own, because you want to, and decided to. Just as Adam and Eve did. Are you saying that you never sinned on your own? From your view, it appears that every one is as Adam and Eve were and then sinned. If you have ever sinned on your own, then you deserve Hell. Correct? That would be justice. Christ wouldn't have to die for something He never did. Christ wouldn't have to endure the 'injustice' of God. (Last statement for emphasis only)
As I am not arguing from the point of Calvinism, neither am I arguing from the point of Reformed. Though many things the Reformed believe, I may believe also. Concerning the will, I do not believe man has 'free will'. He has a will. But only God has free will. For a will to be free, it must be free from any outside influence. Only God has that. Man's will is bombarded constantly with outside influence. Man is placed in positions where he has to decide, but doesn't want to decide as neither decision will result in what he really wills.
I do believe God is sovereign and man has a will.
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