February 28 2016 Matthew 18:23 - 35 A Wicked Example Of Forgiveness.
Matthew 18:23 "Therefore the kingdom of heaven may be compared to a king who wished to settle accounts with his servants.
18:24 When he began to settle, one was brought to him who owed him ten thousand talents.
18:25 And since he could not pay, his master ordered him to be sold, with his wife and children and all that he had, and payment to be made.
18:26 So the servant fell on his knees, imploring him, 'Have patience with me, and I will pay you everything.'
18:27 And out of pity for him, the master of that servant released him and forgave him the debt.
18:28 But when that same servant went out, he found one of his fellow servants who owed him a hundred denarii, and seizing him, he began to choke him, saying, 'Pay what you owe.'
18:29 So his fellow servant fell down and pleaded with him, 'Have patience with me, and I will pay you.'
18:30 He refused and went and put him in prison until he should pay the debt.
18:31 When his fellow servants saw what had taken place, they were greatly distressed, and they went and reported to their master all that had taken place.
18:32 Then his master summoned him and said to him, 'You wicked servant! I forgave you all that debt because you pleaded with me.
18:33 And should not you have had mercy on your fellow servant, as I had mercy on you?'
18:34 And in anger his master delivered him to the jailers, until he should pay all his debt.
18:35 So also my heavenly Father will do to every one of you, if you do not forgive your brother from your heart."
Wow, what an example!! Notice please Verse 35. Jesus says that we must forgive from our hearts. Whenever I think of forgiveness, especially in extremely trying circumstances, it seems impossible to forgive. Rape, child molestation, cases of terrible abuse or other extreme acts of violence are examples of circumstances that really try our resolve to forgive a monster called a human.
Whenever I've been asked "how can I forgive and forget?" My answer has been, we have to forgive and forget how God does it. He is our Example....
Isaiah 43:25 "I, I am he who blots out your transgressions for my own sake, and I will not remember your sins." Notice that God says He will cancel our sins "for My own sake". That's the secret to forgiving someone who has hurt us. If we hold that offense in our thoughts, it will only eat at us like a cancer. So, for our own sake and spiritual health, we must let it go.
You say, "How in the world can I forget what this person did"?....
Psalm 103:12 "as far as the east is from the west, so far does he remove our transgressions from us." In these two verses of Scripture we have two ideas. One, God says that He will not remember our sins. This means, when God thinks of me, He will not drag up the sins that He has forgiven me of and judge me. Even if I commit the same sin, with God, it's the first time....Two, our sins, God says, He puts them as far as the East is from the West. This is just saying that they are so far away from Him that they are simply gone!
So, when I forgive someone who has sinned against me, I must do what God does. When I think of that person, I must not think of his sin against me. If someone steals from me, he is a thief. He comes and asks forgiveness, I grant him forgiveness and the next time I see him or think of him, I can't recall him being a thief. That's forgive and forget.