My understanding of "abiding" is fellowship. Believers are commanded to be "filled with the Spirit". I believe that is what abiding is about. Believers aren't always filled with the Spirit. We see that in the NT in both a positive and negative light. There are a number of verses that state that someone "was filled with the Spirit" and then did some action. Implication is that one isn't always.
From the negative aspect, neither Simon the sorcerer nor Ananias and Saphira were filled with the Spirit.
While many might claim they were never saved in the first place, the Bible directly says that Simon himself believed. I won't argue that. As for A & S, they were clearly part of the close knit congregation. At that time in history, it seems quite unlikely that any unbelievers would want to be part of the group called "Christians".
Also, they are examples of God's divine discipline which resulted in their physical deaths, which Paul makes note of in 1 Cor 11:30 - "many of you are weak, sickly and a number of you have died".
fellowship is a word that could be used lets look at the scriptures
John 15King James Version (KJV)
15 I am the true vine, and my Father is the husbandman.
2 Every branch in me that beareth not fruit he taketh away: and every branch that beareth fruit, he purgeth it, that it may bring forth more fruit.
3 Now ye are clean through the word which I have spoken unto you.
4 {Abide in me}, and I in you. As the branch cannot bear fruit of itself, except it abide in the vine; no more can ye, except ye abide in me.
5 I am the vine, ye are the branches: He that abideth in me, and I in him, the same bringeth forth much fruit: for without me ye can do nothing.
6 If a man abide not in me, he is cast forth as a branch, and is withered; and men gather them, and cast them into the fire, and they are burned.
7 If ye abide in me, and my words abide in you, ye shall ask what ye will, and it shall be done unto you.
8 Herein is my Father glorified, that ye bear much fruit; so shall ye be my disciples.
9 As the Father hath loved me, so have I loved you: continue ye in my love.
10 If ye keep my commandments, ye shall abide in my love; even as I have kept my Father's commandments, and abide in his love.
11 These things have I spoken unto you, that my joy might remain in you, and that your joy might be full.
i am providing this link as i agree with what it says
http://www.gotquestions.org/true-vine.html
to abide one must be connected can a cluster of grapes live not connected to the main vine? to have a relationship you have to abide live in him {
Webster's 1828 Dictionary
Abider
ABI'DER,
noun One who dwells or continues.}
ABI'DE,
verb intransitive pert. and part. abode.
abada, to be, or exist, to continue; W. bod, to be; to dwell, rest, continue, stand firm, or be stationary for anytime indefinitely. Class Bd. No 7.]
1. To rest, or dwell.
Genesis 29:19.
2. To tarry or stay for a short time.
Genesis 24:55.
3. To continue permanently or in the same state; to be firm and immovable.
Psalms 119:90.
4. To remain, to continue.
Acts 27:31.
Ecclesiastes 8:15.
the last part of verse 5 says for without me ye can do nothing. who is me ? the true vine who is the true vine? Jesus he talks about the branches not producing fruit... what is the fruit? the fruit of the spirit produced by the spirit. so the only way we can have the fruit of the spirit is have the spirit which we get the moment of salvation . . love, joy, peace, patience, goodness, kindness, gentleness, faithfulness, and self-control (
Galatians 5:22–23) while we may not show it externally all though people should see something in us.. so in closing a person who has no fruit never was saved. please note only God knows who is real has fruit and who is fake no fruit. we are to be fruit bearer's not fruit inspectors . which is a bad habit of all of us. also there are those who say this proves we can be removed from the vine after being saved .
that not how i read it. take 2 sorry i close in preaching at least 3 times lol if you get a chance to read a book called secrets of the vine .it is a very good book. my last point that i failed to post. a branch removed can be a type pruning -in the book i mentioned it talks of a man who buys a vineyard and hires a vine dresser first thing he does he walks up cuts a big vine /branches full of big grapes. behind this cluster of big grapes was small grapes trying to produce .but chocked out by the bigger grapes.. sometimes God will remove something from us . so we can grow in another area.... :amen