Total nonsense. I was raised by a mother who honestly believed that life just happened to you and that trying to pursue your dreams was a mistake if you "were not born into those dreams like other people".
Oddly, dad did not think like this, but he did start LIVING like this after meeting mom. He had owned several businesses and actually started his first one from NOTHING just after his return from World War II. A life with mom did not change his thinking, but he did alter his behavior to stay with her. (Sad, I know.)
I did not realize just how much my mother's thinking had become a part of me until after her death in 1996. (Dad died in 1995 and this was part of it too, in an odd way - 'cause I no longer had him trying to "save me" from this thinking and SOMEHOW from beyond the grave I heard him louder than when he was sitting next to me).
Soon after Mom died, I realized it was time. I was going to move south, advance my income and career, and distance myself from the mental illness that I had been a part of for 40 years.
Today, I am proud to tell you that (oddly, just 1/2 hour ago) my Facebook page proclaims I am an "Overpaid, Underworked Bystander at Kenwood, USA". Yea, my success is still too limited, but I AM making WAY more money than I ever did before coming down here.
And I am happier, I've done things and been a part of activities here that I'd always wanted to do, but had no opportunity back up north. I made up my mind to totally change my life, and have done so.
Stay tuned, because I am in negotiation for yet another (and quite bold) career move. Give me another month or so, and I'll keep ya posted.
I could post all of the verses that support all I have written, but I seldom do that here. WHY? Because I find it distasteful for Christians to sit around and argue about what the Bible "really" means. So if you are waiting for me to quote verses, you can give up.
We make choices every day. And we live with the (good, bad and indifferent) consequences every day as well. We live with those consequences to our very death.
And into eternity, I suspect.