"God hath decreed in himself, from all eternity, by the most wise and holy counsel of His own will, freely and unchangeably, all things, whatsoever comes to pass;"
- Isaiah 46:10 [ESV] declaring the end from the beginning and from ancient times things not yet done, saying, ‘My counsel shall stand, and I will accomplish all my purpose,’
- Ephesians 1:11 [ESV] In him we have obtained an inheritance, having been predestined according to the purpose of him who works all things according to the counsel of his will,
- Hebrews 6:17 [ESV] So when God desired to show more convincingly to the heirs of the promise the unchangeable character of his purpose, he guaranteed it with an oath,
- Romans 9:15,18 [ESV] 15 For he says to Moses, “I will have mercy on whom I have mercy, and I will have compassion on whom I have compassion.” 1
6 So then it depends not on human will or exertion, but on God, who has mercy. 17 For the Scripture says to Pharaoh, “For this very purpose I have raised you up, that I might show my power in you, and that my name might be proclaimed in all the earth.” 18 So then he has mercy on whomever he wills, and he hardens whomever he wills.
... OK, that sounds pretty "in control of all things" to me?
None of those verses support the claim, and here is one that contradicts it and then seems to support it:
15 If anyone does attack you, it will not be my doing; whoever attacks you will surrender to you.
16 "See, it is I who created the blacksmith who fans the coals into flame and forges a weapon fit for its work. And it is I who have created the destroyer to wreak havoc; (Isa. 54:15-16 NIV)
When someone is mugged, God didn't send the mugger. He didn't decree it.
But God does create the environment where free will choice becomes manifest. He fans the coals and forges the weapon, the destroyer to wreak havoc, but in neither case is He "first cause". The weapon and destroyer existed before He created the environment that permitted their full manifestation.
Pharaoh is a great example.
Pharaoh hardened his own heart, AFTER God permitted his magicians duplicate the miracles God did. That deceived the Pharoah into believing he could resist God, which was what he wanted to do.
10 So Moses and Aaron went to Pharaoh and did just as the LORD commanded. Aaron threw his staff down in front of Pharaoh and his officials, and it became a snake.
11 Pharaoh then summoned wise men and sorcerers, and the Egyptian magicians also did the same things by their secret arts:
12 Each one threw down his staff and it became a snake. But Aaron's staff swallowed up their staffs.
13 Yet Pharaoh's heart became hard and
he would not listen to them, just as the LORD had said.
14 Then the LORD said to Moses, "Pharaoh's heart is unyielding;
he refuses to let the people go. (Exod. 7:10-14 NIV)
But when Pharaoh saw that there was relief,
he hardened his heart and did not heed them, as the LORD had said. (Exod. 8:15 NKJ)
No "hardening energy" went from God to Pharaoh's heart. God orchestrated events so that Pharaoh's free will choice to resist God would occur in the time allotted to serve God's purposes:
16 "But indeed for this purpose I have raised you up, that I may show My power in you, and that My name may be declared in all the earth. (Exod. 9:16 NKJ)
22 What if God, wanting to show His wrath and to make His power known, endured with much longsuffering the vessels of wrath prepared (
2675 καταρτίζω katartizo) for destruction,
23 and that He might make known the riches of His glory on the vessels of mercy, which He had prepared beforehand for glory,
24 even us whom He called, not of the Jews only, but also of the Gentiles? (Rom. 9:22-24 NKJ)
2675 καταρτίζω katartizo
Meaning: 1)
to render, i.e. to fit, sound, complete 1a) to mend (what has been broken or rent), to repair 1a1) to complete 1b) to fit out, equip, put in order, arrange, adjust 1b1) to fit or frame for one's self, prepare 1c) ethically: to strengthen, perfect, complete, make one what he ought to be.
"Fitted to destruction" KJV. Pharaoh was fitted, rendered, completed when his magicians gave him courage to do what his free will wanted, to resist God.
That results in his destruction, therefore KJV is right on.
Its their fault, not God's doing:
For the hearts of this people have grown dull.
Their ears are hard of hearing, And their eyes they have closed, Lest they should see with their eyes and hear with their ears,
Lest they should understand with their hearts and turn, So that I should heal them.' (Matt. 13:15 NKJ)
So when Paul says God made them blind, I understand God gets the credit because He didn't step in and make them see
Just as it is written: "God has given them a spirit of stupor, Eyes that they should not see And ears that they should not hear, To this very day." (Rom. 11:8 NKJ)
Like the "strong delusion God will send", He is credited with sending it because He stopped restraining the Devil who energizes it, and it was a judgment against the apostates for deviating from God's Word of Truth for experiences that have no parallel in the New Testament:
7 For the mystery of lawlessness is already at work; only He who now restrains will do so until He is taken out of the way.
8 And then the lawless one will be revealed, whom the Lord will consume with the breath of His mouth and destroy with the brightness of His coming.
9 The coming of the lawless one is according to the working of Satan, with all power, signs, and lying wonders,
10 and with all unrighteous deception among those who perish, because they did not receive the love of the truth, that they might be saved.
11 And
for this reason God will send them strong delusion, that they should believe the lie,
12
that they all may be condemned who did not believe the truth but had pleasure in unrighteousness.
(2 Thess. 2:7-12 NKJ)
Paul contrasts those who follow their spiritual experiences and false prophets etc., to sola scriptura Christians who follow the tradition of the apostles (which became Scripture):
13 But we are bound to give thanks to God always for you, brethren beloved by the Lord, because God from the beginning chose you for salvation through sanctification by the Spirit and belief in the truth,
14 to which He called you by our gospel, for the obtaining of the glory of our Lord Jesus Christ.
15 Therefore, brethren, stand fast and hold the traditions which you were taught, whether by word or our epistle.
16 Now may our Lord Jesus Christ Himself, and our God and Father, who has loved us and given us everlasting consolation and good hope by grace,
17 comfort your hearts and establish you in every good word and work. (2 Thess. 2:13-17 NKJ)