First off becoming born again is not a simple formula of words that we recite.
It is a gift from Jesus freely available to all who will:
believe in Him, (not just of Him) and the doctrines that He has presented
submit to His Lordship over all areas of our lives
and follow Him and His doctrines and teachings
I hope the following helps to elaborate.
Blesings to you Billy
2 Tim 3:5 Having a form of godliness, but denying the power thereof: from such turn away.
We all need to allow the true light of our Savior and Lord to shine in us, exposing our sin and deception. If we, however, hold on to any part of that sin nature, the darkness in us will prevent the light from shining through.
Matt 25:29-30 For unto every one that hath shall be given, and he shall have abundance: but from him that hath not shall be taken away even that which he hath. And cast ye the unprofitable servant into outer darkness: there shall be weeping and gnashing of teeth.
Be careful therefore how you interpret the Word of God. To those who have the Spirit of God and are born again, much more spiritual understanding will be given. But those who do not have the truth and are not born again, from them shall be taken even that which they believe to have because it represents a lie.
John 3:5-7 Jesus answered, Verily, verily, I say unto thee, Except a man be born of water and of the Spirit, he cannot enter into the kingdom of God. That which is born of the flesh is flesh; and that which is born of the Spirit is spirit. Marvel not that I said unto thee, Ye must be born again.
Those that deny the power of Christ is to follow after the commandments and teachings of men.
If you are forever learning, and never able to come to the knowledge of the truth,
it is because the Spirit of truth is not within you (2 Tim 3:7).
Until you are born again it is impossible to have a personal and intimate relationship with Jesus Christ. Once this new Spiritual birth occurs deceptive doctrines are easily observed and avoided.
The very first warning Jesus gives us regarding the last days is to ensure that you are not deceived (Luke 21:8).
Eph 4:30-31 And grieve not the holy Spirit of God, whereby ye are sealed unto the day of redemption. Let all bitterness, and wrath, and anger, and clamour, and blasphemy, be put away from you, with all malice:
Mark 7:9 Full well ye reject the commandment of God, that ye may keep your own tradition.
When we claim to be born again can it be real if we are unable to understand the fundamental doctrine of Christianity regarding our Salvation and when it occurs?
It is the Comforter that Christ sent that teaches us all things and prevents us from following the deceptive doctrines of men. Far too many confuse the tingling sensation they experience from an entertaining well orchestrated cinematic like production, at a building called the church, with that of the infilling of the Holy Spirit that comes upon the members of the church.
If any man does not have the Spirit of Christ or the Baptism of the Holy Spirit, he can not be of Christ. We must be transformed by Christ to put on the Mind of Christ.
1 Cor 2:14 But the natural man receiveth not the things of the Spirit of God: for they are foolishness unto him: neither can he know them, because they are spiritually discerned.
Our Lord said, “the words that I speak they are Spirit and they are Life” (John 6:63). The teachings of Jesus Christ can only be understood when His Spirit dwells within us. When this transformation occurs then the claim of becoming born again is real.
We are to seek after the kingdom of God and His righteousness, in a continual and diligent manner, without ceasing. The reward that we seek should be that of our Redemption and Salvation upon our Lord’s return, not the deceitfulness of riches (Matt 6:20-24, 33, 13:22, Rom 8:23, Eph 1:13-14).
John 12:25 He that loveth his life shall lose it; and he that hateth his life in this world shall keep it unto life eternal.
When one is transformed by the Holy spirit with a renewed mind, it is impossible to love the world any longer (Rom 8:23).
1 John 2:15 Love not the world, neither the things that are in the world. If any man love the world, the love of the Father is not in him.