like i said, my name is doubting thomas for a reason. i have my doubts. my background is in catholicism. personally, the church's position on the inquisitions does nothing to affect my views on the immaculate conception. nor do i think the actions of man have any bearing of the legitimacy of the church as an institution. priests rape boys. that doesn't mean the pope is therefore not god's true representative on earth.
what matters, at least to this thread, is if jesus was born to a virgin or not (clearly i lean no), and why his family thought him mad (and, of secondary importance, as the thread has evolved on its own, as to whether jesus can be said to have dishonored his mother, to which i clearly lean yes). neither questions, ultimately, have any bearing for me on whether or not jesus was the son of god. i don't think the bible is inerrant (nor do i think i have to in order to be considered a christian.)
personally, i think it somewhat blasphemous to compare joe the preacher with jesus the rabbi and son of god (or even paul). too many preachers honor jesus with their mouths, but not their hearts. your mother is your mother, and you do not scold her in public. it is disrespectful, full stop. that said, it doesnt undermine my faith. as i said, i think jesus' family did not understand who he was, and i think jesus was very frustrated at times. and i do think mary has special privileges. of course mary is special. you cant compare mary to the pharisees. it's not like mary is questioning jesus' views on OT law.