Solo said:
Let me put it to you as simply as I know how, and change from a question to an opportunity for you to explain your understanding concerning being born again:
Explain what occurs when one is born again.
Good question. Thank you for this opportunity. As I have explained, we can’t see into a person’s heart and soul to know what really occurs or when a person is born again. That is what God does and he knows when a person is ready for this. It seems to occur in stages of development, much like a baby being formed in the womb. When the word of God is heard and thought about and finally understood, then the person has the choice to follow it or reject it. If they reject it, chances are they will hear it again until in rejecting it so many times, they become calloused to it and shut their ears. Eventually a seed can’t penetrate, and a person is lost forever.
Those who hear, understand and follow it begin the process of being born of the Spirit. As they yield to the Spirit, the seed takes root and grows.
1 Peter 1:22
Seeing you have purified your souls in obeying the truth through the Spirit unto unfeigned love of the brethren, see that you love one another with a pure heart fervently: Being born again, not of corruptible seed, but of incorruptible, by the word of God, which lives and abides for ever.
The word of God is more than the words in a book. It has life in it. The Spirit of God can take the things of God and show them to us. When we listen, and obey, we grow. When we close our ears to the truth, we don’t grow. We can even waste away until there is no life left in us. Then a new seed must be sown in our hearts, and begin again. With each person it is different.
2 Peter 1:2-10
Grace and peace be multiplied unto you through the knowledge of God, and of Jesus our Lord, According as his divine power hath given unto us all things that pertain unto life and godliness, through the knowledge of him that hath called us to glory and virtue: Whereby are given unto us exceeding great and precious promises: that by these you might be partakers of the divine nature, having escaped the corruption that is in the world through lust.
And beside this, giving all diligence, add to your faith virtue; and to virtue knowledge; And to knowledge temperance; and to temperance patience; and to patience godliness; And to godliness brotherly kindness; and to brotherly kindness charity. For if these things be in you, and abound, they make you that you shall neither be barren nor unfruitful in the knowledge of our Lord Jesus Christ. But he that lacks these things is blind, and cannot see afar off, and hath forgotten that he was purged from his old sins.
Wherefore the rather, brethren, give diligence to make your calling and election sure: for if ye do these things, ye shall never fall:
As in our human lives, we may lose the ‘new creature’ before it is born, but God can send us a new seed of the word and this one may produce fruit. How long this takes, and how successful it is depends on our willingness to obey and allow love to grow in our hearts. God is love. The seed of God will produce love and the born again person will be known by his love. Even though we may be born again, we can neglect the new birth and we will not mature in it. I don’t know all there is know about this subject but it is good to discuss it and grow in our knowledge of the truth of the matter. Some things only God knows. As the 'good doctor' on Star Trek should say, I’m not a doctor…
but God is the great physician. He has advice that, when followed, will bring us safe to heaven. Obey him.