If interested we can then discuss 'what of those who sin after God's saving Grace and Holy Spirit are poured out and fills them.' I think that is what many here want to discuss but don't.
My time to flounder around on Internet forums is coming to an end. I have been house-sitting a cat with diabetes while my wife spends five weeks sunning herself on the Maui-like beaches of Belarus, but this is coming to an end.
Anyway, this seems like an endless circle. I, at least, am indeed talking about apostasy or a falling away that is pretty much the functional equivalent of apostasy. So perhaps we are in what a friend of mine calls "violent agreement." I am certainly not saying (and I don't think anyone else here is) that after being born again anyone can lose his salvation merely by repeatedly stumbling. I am certainly not saying that at the end of a born again believer's life God evaluates his works and decides whether he's made the grade. That would effectively obviate the Atonement. Just as you say "the rebuttal is always Judas" (it is?), I might say the rebuttal is always "Oh, those who fall away were never really born again in the first place."
Several millennia ago, I used to be a door-to-door proselytizer with Campus Crusade. I have no illusion that everyone who recited the magic prayer was really sincere and was really born again. But some were. Some of them, like me, continued in the faith, albeit with repeated stumbles and occasional lapses that might last for years. Others either overtly rejected the gift they had once received or lived lives that were the functional equivalent of throwing the gift back in God's face. It's the latter group that I'm talking about when I refer to falling away.
At least in Campus Crusade and the Southern Baptist churches I once attended, the understanding was that there was pretty much no such thing as falling away. As the Baptist statement of faith puts it, "All true believers endure to the end. Those whom God has accepted in Christ, and sanctified by His Spirit, will never fall away from the state of grace, but shall persevere to the end. Believers may fall into sin through neglect and temptation, whereby they grieve the Spirit, impair their graces and comforts, and bring reproach on the cause of Christ and temporal judgments on themselves; yet they shall be kept by the power of God through faith unto salvation." Whether one calls this OSAS or the perseverance of the saints seems largely a matter of semantics to me. It is this, the simplistic notion that "true believers" can never fall away and that anyone who does fall away was
ipso facto not a "true believer," that I now more or less reject. The NT seems to me to much more clearly (but not absolutely clearly) support the position that one who has sincerely come to Christ and been born again must continue in the faith and that such perseverance is not inevitable, and this also seems to have been the view of most of the earliest Christians.
A discussion could certainly be had as to what constitutes "continuing in the faith." Many people in my experience go from being absolute fiends before they were born again to being only marginally better fiends in the ensuing years. They seem to be sincere Christians, but they are still plagued by their extraordinarily fiend-like human natures. Their "Christian walk," such as it is, isn't pretty. I expect to see them in heaven so long as they sincerely continue to believe in the power of the Cross and sincerely confess and repent each time they fall. However, if they eventually say, "The hell with it, this stuff isn't real and never was, and I'm going to live my life the way that pleases me and me alone" - well, I question whether I will see them in heaven.
Like so many of these discussions, this one seems to me in the vein of debating how many angels can dance on the head of a pin (73, if you must know). If I knew today that OSAS were true or that it were not true, it wouldn't affect in the slightest the way I live my life.