wondering
Greetings, Sister.
I suspect that Fra’ Lorenzo is a Carmelite. The habit will a dead giveaway: brown tunic, cowl and scapular, with a large, hooded, white mantle (cloak). In the UK, the white Carmelite mantle led to their being called ‘Whitefriars’; as opposed to the black mantled Dominicans, known as ‘Blackfriars’.
If I’m right, then it is very likely that one of the sanctuary friars is chaplain to the nuns you speak of.
As for John 3:5; I’m with Fra’ Lorenzo on this one. But, of course, in order to have a water baptism one has to be born in the first place. So, I guess you also have a point!
What can you do about your doubts? Learn
as much as possible about the various opinions (theologies) behind this and that, and then act according to your conscience.
If, in the course of time, some new insight comes along – one that persuades and, by so doing, requires a change of heart – then act accordingly. ‘This above all, to thine own self be true.’ (Hamlet; Act 1, Scene III).
At the end of it all, the Beloved knows best!
Have a great day, sister, and very best regards. May the Beloved guide you to His truth, and grant you peace.