What Are Some of the Drawbacks to Online Dating

[Nick]

That's just the problem. what is needed is a devoted forum for tech. stuff. Maybe there should be a different one for darwolism and gatism

But we do! :D

Obviously lots of people want to talk about computers in there. But there's nothing stopping you starting a thread on anything tech-related, lol.

 

[Blev]

Re: What Are Sine

Not all women are wacko, but I'd say that a big drawback is that the vast majority of men & women are not telling the whole truth about themselves. Some of them are not intentionally being deceptive, but some are. It's human nature to put your best foot forward.

I'd say the drawbacks are pretty obvious in that regard, but I have heard a few success stories.

I agree with that. There are too many people who come online that are up to no good. Its best to find someone from church or in real life from a trusted friend, etc. Best of all is trust the Lord to bring the right person to you at the right time as you live totally for Jesus, and He will prepare you for Mr or Mrs Right.

 

[Blev]

Re: What Are Sine

The major drawback is deception, intentional or otherwise. And it appears to be on the part of both male and female.


So true!


The up side is that she wants to only be friends... maybe a slow relationship will blossom into a good one in time. She says she wants to marry her best friend - and you don't get to be best friends overnight.

Best friends - thats the kind that has a better chance of lasting.

I find that most online daters are looking for instant relationships - and they usually don't work, do they?

Nope they don't.

Good post Pizzaguy

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[Blev]

Re: What Are Sine

Nor do I want to go to church focused on finding Ms. Right.

You may not go for that reason but why not find her in the church? How are you going to live in God's calling for your life if she is not in church and wants to go the opposite way, pulling you away from God's will?

 

[Classik]

But we do! :D

Obviously lots of people want to talk about computers in there. But there's nothing stopping you starting a thread on anything tech-related, lol.

Okey-dokey

 

[Classik]

Find her/him in the church? Good [As if all in the church are better than those in the street ] Ask God to direct you - (it is safer with the churchpeople tho. Don't kill me

 

[Gordon]

Re: What Are Sine

You may not go for that reason but why not find her in the church? How are you going to live in God's calling for your life if she is not in church and wants to go the opposite way, pulling you away from God's will?

I just figured she didn't have to go to my church. I joined the Sunday School program but the women are older. I also am joining some house groups this week but they are older folks and couples. I actually did look around as they had pictures posted for a woman my age but I felt kind of stupid about it. I wanted to study the Bible with Christians I thought a side mission to meet a one girl was kind of desperate. So why are you driving out here to study with us? Well I looked online and she was pretty cute. So is this gonna happen or what?

 

[Nick]

Re: What Are Sine

You may not go for that reason but why not find her in the church? How are you going to live in God's calling for your life if she is not in church and wants to go the opposite way, pulling you away from God's will?

I'm in the same boat as Gordon - I want a partner but I'm not going to church and treating it like a dating service. The chances that I find a suitable partner at my church are quite high, but if I'm going to church simply to try and fill a longing that I desire then that's pretty selfish and is not what a Biblical church service is about.

I don't mind if my partner comes from another church and we happen to meet at some other location. The main thing is she's a Christian girl.

 

[Jethro Bodine]

Re: What Are Sine

I actually met a virgin a couple weeks ago but there wasn't a mutual attraction.

Here's the dilemma. A virgin sounds like an attractive feature, but then you've got someone with no experience in relationships (I said 'relationships', not sex). But, someone experienced in the many pitfalls of marriage probably has a lot of baggage--ex's, adult children, damaged emotions, hardened--possibly distorted--value systems, addictions, illnesses, etc.

At my age (49) I don't want to start all over with a newbie, but I also don't have the mental and physical energy for all the stress of the baggage of someone else's old relationships.

This is why you have to really leave this kind of thing up to God to drop in your lap, and in the meantime seek Paul's advice to stay unmarried. The short of it being, God prolly won't drop it in your lap on line (how could you tell the difference between what you're doing and God?).

I've been purposely keeping myself from posting here (too emotional for me right now), but I lean toward the just bumping into them along the way kind of thing. Your motivations will be right, and it gives room for God to do what he can do for you. On line to me screams self-seeking 'desperation'! And that is the very worst reason to seek a mate. You might as well start drafting the divorce papers on the first date...IMO.

 

[joethemechanic]

When I talk to women online, I feel like I need one of these decoder rings.

 

[abide]

When I talk to women online, I feel like I need one of these decoder rings.

Perhaps you need to forget online and meet them the old traditional way.

I find I am still doubting about the sincerity online.

 

[Sparkey]

Minimum requirement: That a prospective date knows the difference between fantasy and reality. If you drop your fishing line into a polluted creek, don't be surprised if the fish you catch has worms.

 

[abide]

Minimum requirement: That a prospective date knows the difference between fantasy and reality. If you drop your fishing line into a polluted creek, don't be surprised if the fish you catch has worms.

Lol..

 

[Blev]

Re: What Are Sine

I'm in the same boat as Gordon - I want a partner but I'm not going to church and treating it like a dating service. The chances that I find a suitable partner at my church are quite high, but if I'm going to church simply to try and fill a longing that I desire then that's pretty selfish and is not what a Biblical church service is about.

I don't mind if my partner comes from another church and we happen to meet at some other location. The main thing is she's a Christian girl.

Hey Nick

Of course I didn't mean to go for that reason. But as you are there worshiping and serving the Lord He can bring you and her together or as you said, maybe from another church. I suppose your church does fellowship with other churches.

I'm glad you can see its important that she is a Christian

 

[Blev]

If you drop your fishing line into a polluted creek, don't be surprised if the fish you catch has worms.

:biglol

 

[Classik]

Perhaps you need to forget online and meet them the old traditional way.

I find I am still doubting about the sincerity online.

Old traditional way??? What's modern dating? :dunno Has today's dating gone nuclear?

 

[Nick]

Re: What Are Sine

Hey Nick

Of course I didn't mean to go for that reason. But as you are there worshiping and serving the Lord He can bring you and her together or as you said, maybe from another church. I suppose your church does fellowship with other churches.

I'm glad you can see its important that she is a Christian

Yes.

My point alsi was that you don't need to meet her in any church.

 

[Classik]

Re: What Are Sine

Yes.

My point alsi was that you don't need to meet her in any church.

You are right and you must have noticed something. (About 40 percent of our young ones are looking for mates....and that's why they are in church) and when that woman leaves, that man probablly stops coming to that church.... Vice versa.

 

[joethemechanic]

Re: What Are Sine

and when that woman leaves, that man probablly stops coming to that church.... Vice versa.

That is why it's good to go to a church with lots of hotties. That way if one leaves, you don't have to find another church.

 

[Classik]

Re: What Are Sine

That is why it's good to go to a church with lots of hotties. That way if one leaves, you don't have to find another church.

:toofunny