What Are Some of the Drawbacks to Online Dating

[handy]

So where do you find all these women who want to wait until marriage? I haven't met any of them since I was a teen. Even back then they were few and far between.

That's interesting to me... because I know we're about the same age and most of the girls I went to high school with held to the idea that one remained a virgin until one's wedding night.

Not that all made it until then, but most wanted to. But then, I lived in a fairly conservative place. I went to high school in a town of about 1,500 people and there were 7 churches around... 9 if you counted the LDS and JW...

 

[stovebolts]

So where do you find all these women who want to wait until marriage? I haven't met any of them since I was a teen. Even back then they were few and far between.

Believe it or not, I met her online :D

Difference being... I wasn't looking for a date. At the time, I didn't want to have anything to do with dating. My first marriage left such a scar on me and the gal I dated after my divorce was so.... icky, for a lack of a better word, that I just wanted to be single until I figured out why I kept attracting dysfunctional women.

So... I made a list of qualities in a woman that I would not compromise on and my radar was up. Any red flags and I was out. Simple as that. I figured I'd be single a long, long time. God simply had other plans.

Short of it, we dated for over a year and lived together for Im thinking 5 or 6 months. A healthy fear of the Lord kept my in line. I didn't know why God didn't want sex before marriage at the time, but I knew that's what he required. Out of fear, I obeyed and stayed strong, even when the temptations were great. You ask where you meet these women that won't have sex before marriage. You've missed the point. YOU have to decide NO SEX BEFORE MARRIAGE. You can't depend on somebody else to uphold YOUR faith.

Nothing wrong with a little fear of the Lord. But what I found is as I began to understand why God wanted it that way, that fear was driven out with God's love.

 

[joethemechanic]

Oh I have already decided not to have sex before marriage

The problem is, when you've been dating them for a time, they want to have sex. Then when they make it clear that they want to have sex, and I say no, they act all insulted and act like I'm some kind of freak.

And don't say that it's because I'm not dating "Christian" women, because it seems like they are just as bad as the rest.

 

[abide]

Believe it or not, I met her online :D

Difference being... I wasn't looking for a date. At the time, I didn't want to have anything to do with dating. My first marriage left such a scar on me and the gal I dated after my divorce was so.... icky, for a lack of a better word, that I just wanted to be single until I figured out why I kept attracting dysfunctional women.

So... I made a list of qualities in a woman that I would not compromise on and my radar was up. Any red flags and I was out. Simple as that. I figured I'd be single a long, long time. God simply had other plans.

Short of it, we dated for over a year and lived together for Im thinking 5 or 6 months. A healthy fear of the Lord kept my in line. I didn't know why God didn't want sex before marriage at the time, but I knew that's what he required. Out of fear, I obeyed and stayed strong, even when the temptations were great. You ask where you meet these women that won't have sex before marriage. You've missed the point. YOU have to decide NO SEX BEFORE MARRIAGE. You can't depend on somebody else to uphold YOUR faith.

Nothing wrong with a little fear of the Lord. But what I found is as I began to understand why God wanted it that way, that fear was driven out with God's love.

Words of wisdom.

 

[thisnumbersdisconnected]

Re: What Are Sine

To tell you the truth, I find it hard to believe in the long courtship with no sex. I've never experienced it, and nobody I know has ever experienced it. And I'm talking both Christians and Non-Christians.

If you don't at least try with most women within the first couple weeks of dating, they start to question whether or not you are impotent or gay.

I'm not saying that I agree with it, it's the state of the world today, and it's a sad situation. I'm just calling it the way I see it.

You're looking in the wrong places and asking the wrong women, in my opinion. The woman I'm currently dating (I met her at church) and I will not have sex unless we marry. Period. It is a given in our community. I know there are statistics showing that Christians are engaging in premarital sex nearly as much as is the world, but I find that hard to believe. Most of those are "Christians" in their own minds because they go to church and sit in a pew for an hour every week.

 

[stovebolts]

Words of wisdom.

A fool learns from his own mistakes. A wise man learns from the mistakes of others.

If I am to boast, it would be of my foolishness.

 

[Blev]

Re: What Are Sine

You're looking in the wrong places and asking the wrong women, in my opinion. The woman I'm currently dating (I met her at church) and I will not have sex unless we marry. Period. It is a given in our community. I know there are statistics showing that Christians are engaging in premarital sex nearly as much as is the world, but I find that hard to believe. Most of those are "Christians" in their own minds because they go to church and sit in a pew for an hour every week.

 

[joethemechanic]

I don't know. It seems like they all spout the rhetoric, but when it comes down to what they really do, everything changes.

From what I have seen, the women in church are as likely to be strumpets as the rest of society.

 

[reba]

joe if the way you show what you think of women here in the unreal world of the internet, is even close to real life, You are only going to find those types....

In a few short words you dont sound like you even like women....

 

[abide]

joe if the way you show what you think of women here in the unreal world of the internet, is even close to real life, You are only going to find those types....

In a few short words you dont sound like you even like women....

:toofunny

 

[jasoncran]

:toofunny

reba, i would appear to be that way before i married. or after a break up. like jeff i have a tendency at times to draw bad women.

 

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