What IS ok in marriage?

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Well yea Vic, of course, you should be safe. The point is you can find out if you're clean, and take precautions against pregnancy.

SO unless both parties (husband and wife, ) are 100% sure they are clean, intercourse during menstruation may be unwise.
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Unless you're 100% sure, wouldn't it be unwise to engage in intercourse at all? :wink:
 
Hi Anariel,
I know in the New Testament it metions in many areas that the old covenant dietary laws are no longer law. I can't find any revision, removal, or reference to the mention of intercourse during a womans menstrual "time" in the New Testament. :oops:

Like I said, it should be in total aggreement between you, your spouce, and the Lord. I do not try to say that it is the only way but to my wife's and I understanding, this is what is best for us.

IMHO
 
I've always been told it's wrong to have sex during a womans menstrual cycle. So, I use it as my "time" to get a break from it! :wink:

Personally, I think it's gross, but that's just me. Plus, the wonderful cramps that come with it turn me off to any thought of it.

So, can I be anymore blunt? :o
 
I can just IMAGINE the things you all must be thinking about me! :lol:

But it's questions that I have :-?

You've probably already learned that I'm pretty straight forward when it comes to talking about things.... :lol:

Now would I ask these things to a stranger face to face that I had never met? NO WAY!
 
I would venture to guess that most of you have had sexual relationships outside of marriage...that is before you were married.

Am I wrong?
 
It seems to me the answer lies (Sorry, no pun intended) in not what is done, but why.

If a man and wife wished to explore every part of their bodies as part of intimacy, the reason sounds pure to me, and I can't see how that doesn't honor God.

But if their reasons are otherwise. If He wants to do the thing she read about in pornographic liturature, or she wants to not do something because she's heard it's not nice, but really hasn't thought it out, then their motives should be analyzed.

Menstrual sex has its own answer. The pheremones given off during menses tend to shut down a man's libido (that's not an Italian sports car, by the way) so it seems that God's left us a little hint there, in spite of the wishes of many wives who find themselves on the wrong end of wild and crazy hormones.

As for cleanliness. Sorry, but you're already swapping about as much body stuff as you can. The cleanliness/hygeine arguement doesn't really seem to hold much water when you're talking about a monogomous married couple.
 
My husband's libido never slows down. Serioulsy. But tell me, is it always about the man getting what he wants? His libido is down so even though the woman really wants it, no go?
 
Anariel said:
My husband's libido never slows down. Serioulsy. But tell me, is it always about the man getting what he wants? His libido is down so even though the woman really wants it, no go?
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Women want romance. Men want sex. It's as simple as that. Husbands are never as romantic as their wives wish they could be, and wives are never as interested in sex as their husbands wish they would be.

The key is for husbands to work at being more romantic, and for wives to work at being more sexy.
 
Women want romance. Men want sex. It's as simple as that. Husbands are never as romantic as their wives wish they could be, and wives are never as interested in sex as their husbands wish they would be.
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You obviously really love stereotypes doncha? Once again whatever you're describing doesn't describe me. I want sex all the time and so does Chris, we're young Also Chris is the most affectionate and romantic guy I've ever known.
 
Anariel said:
Women want romance. Men want sex. It's as simple as that. Husbands are never as romantic as their wives wish they could be, and wives are never as interested in sex as their husbands wish they would be.
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You obviously really love stereotypes doncha? Once again whatever you're describing doesn't describe me. I want sex all the time and so does Chris, we're young Also Chris is the most affectionate and romantic guy I've ever known.
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They aren't just stereotypes. Eventually you'll find the trend appearing. His libido will remain the same or grow, while yours wanes. Usually this begins after the birth of the first child. Sometimes the husband's sex drive drops off as he feels pressure to be in the delivery room, and see his wife's body doing things that are hard to place in context of her as an object of sexual desire. Usually he deals with it, and his libido returns, but hers doesn't. Her desire for romance stays, but familiarity makes his efforts at being romantic slowly disappear.

Give it time.
 
Well thanks for the advice. I'm sure feeling like your pelvic area is ripping in half does kinda make you recoil from the thought of having to do it again. Men wouldn't know anything about that though, they just get all squemish apparently at seeing what they will never have to go through. The world and God are both geared toward the happiness of the male, while women are treated as objects. Ya'll got it made huh?
 
UGH.

I HATE acting "sexy". Makes me feel like a dork.
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I have to say that I don't feel like I'm treated as an object. The way I look at it is when men drool over women and other things, it just makes them look foolish. Desperate. I could see a man and think he was drop dead gorgeous, but I'm not going to make comments outright to them...that would make me lok desperate and I will not allow myself to look desperate for a man! :lol:

I can see where you think women are objects. Look at all the Playboy books and stuff. It's a HUGE industry.

But the women are CHOOSING to make themselves objects.
 
But the women are CHOOSING to make themselves objects.
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That's the saddest part. They feel like all they have of any worth is their looks. Of course that is mostly what's taught. I'm very sexy I'm not worried about that. Let me tell you what unless I get fat and ugly Chris better stay sexy too. I always hear about how a man can't be with someone he doesn't find physically attractive, it's true for girls too, guys be aware!
 
Anariel said:
But the women are CHOOSING to make themselves objects.
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That's the saddest part. They feel like all they have of any worth is their looks. Of course that is mostly what's taught. I'm very sexy I'm not worried about that. Let me tell you what unless I get fat and ugly Chris better stay sexy too. I always hear about how a man can't be with someone he doesn't find physically attractive, it's true for girls too, guys be aware!
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Oh yeah, let's have a look at ya.
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