So i was in the happiest relationship of my life with my fiancee jenny. she is also christian, she showed me the way, ilove this woman so much, i know god took out of my ribs to create this beautiful creation. i know its sinful but we had sex before marrage and she got pregnant with my son, shes 3 months right now. i want to marry this woman and love her till the day i die. so in the last few days she called me and told me she doesnt love me anymore and nothing going to work out the way i wished it would. i feel so lost ive been talking to god none stop for the last few days, telling him she is my earthly love. i know there is more than this, would god bless us with a son just to have it come up in a broken home without its father? god created man and woman so they could be together i know she is the one. there is no question. this is such strange behavior for her we were so in love. god knows my heart, he has heard my anguish over losing her and the possibility of my dream of raising a family with her. please help thanks
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Would God do this ?
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duari91
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I once made this mistake too my friend. God probably won't answer this prayer in the way you had hoped. Why? Because your telling him who your earthly love is. Why don't you trust him to find that person for you? Don't you think the creator of all things knows who your love is? God has a purpose for this. Maybe he knew that in the future, she would be unfaithful. In knowing this, he has shielded you and spared you from further heartache. Maybe it was that you just werent truly meant to be, and he is still planning for you to meet someone else. Believe me, telling God this person IS your earthly love will not get your prayers answered. He knows you better than you know yourself, so just trust in him. Ask for him to pick someone for you, someone that fits you best. If you ask him for this, and he answers your prayer, you must be ready to accept the fact that this person may not be the person.
Just like you said, God knows your heart. Don't you think its possible that this person may not be what is best for it?
Paul1965
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Hello and blessings Jon,
I'm sorry to hear you are going through a trial at the moment. Speaking from experience and with reason,don't close dialogue with God or with Jenny.
When women are in the early stages of pregnancy, their hormones play a lot of dirty tricks on them. ( I have been blessed with four children) The hormonal changes can give them terrible mood swings making them act in ways that seem strange to we menfolk sitting on the sidelines. Yes it is hard to understand at the time but putting up with it is worth it in the end.
That being said, if it is truly His will that it is over you must accept it and know that you have helped to create a new life. it's then up to you to help guide and nurture your sons faith and life for the glory of Him.
I agree with Duari91 in that asking God to mend things is NOT the answer. Again I speak from experience. I am now at the happiest point in my life, having been through many of God's trials and it wasn't until I accepted Him and importantly His will that I was able to achieve this. During the failure of my first marriage I continually prayed that my wife would return tome from her "other". That didn't happen and at the time I was devastated to the point of almost committing suicide. However God in His infinite wisdom and love showed me the way and brought me to where I am now. Blessing me with happiness and success.
He also made it possible for me and my ex to be on friendly terms later on, so that I can still be actively involved in my children's upbringing.
No matter what, you must keep the fire of your faith burning throughout this very hard time.
I'm sorry to hear you are going through a trial at the moment. Speaking from experience and with reason,don't close dialogue with God or with Jenny.
When women are in the early stages of pregnancy, their hormones play a lot of dirty tricks on them. ( I have been blessed with four children) The hormonal changes can give them terrible mood swings making them act in ways that seem strange to we menfolk sitting on the sidelines. Yes it is hard to understand at the time but putting up with it is worth it in the end.
That being said, if it is truly His will that it is over you must accept it and know that you have helped to create a new life. it's then up to you to help guide and nurture your sons faith and life for the glory of Him.
I agree with Duari91 in that asking God to mend things is NOT the answer. Again I speak from experience. I am now at the happiest point in my life, having been through many of God's trials and it wasn't until I accepted Him and importantly His will that I was able to achieve this. During the failure of my first marriage I continually prayed that my wife would return tome from her "other". That didn't happen and at the time I was devastated to the point of almost committing suicide. However God in His infinite wisdom and love showed me the way and brought me to where I am now. Blessing me with happiness and success.
He also made it possible for me and my ex to be on friendly terms later on, so that I can still be actively involved in my children's upbringing.
No matter what, you must keep the fire of your faith burning throughout this very hard time.
Nikki
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Maybe she's confused right now and pushing you away is her way of dealing with things. She may change her mind. Regardless of what happens, PLEASE be there for the child. Put all of this in God's hands. You can't force her to love you and want to be with you, but if it's what God really wants, he will be the only one that can change her feelings. I'm sorry you are hurting.
I agree with the poster who warned about pregnancy mood swings. Those can be brutal. PMS mood swings can be pretty bad, too.
What she is saying doesn't make sense. She's going to have a little baby, and she wants to be a single mom? I'm assuming, aside from the fornication, you're probably a reasonably decent guy who loves her and wants to take care of her. And she's going to do this on her own? It makes no sense to the rational mind. That's the problem-- pregnant women sometimes think with their feelings, not their rational mind? Take what a pregnant woman says with a grain of salt.
Is she saying a bunch of emotional gobbledygook that doesn't exactly make sense to you? Is she blaming you for all of her bad feelings? Does she get upset over basically nothing, things that would not normally bother her?
It can take some time to get over these kinds of feelings. Hopefully she won't just shut you out of her life.
If you want to marry her, do things right. Ask her dad if you can marry her. Apologize for how you've sinned and violated his daughter instead of asking his permission and marrying her before doing that sort of stuff to her. Then, if she warms up to it, marry that girl fast. Once you are married, you are in a much more stable position. 'Boyfriend' is not much of a relationship. At least fiancee is a little better than that.
Wives can even talk like this. You need to be the emotional rock in the relationship as her hormones go up and down. You are the one who knows the relationship will endure, that there will be no divorce, that her emotional storm will pass. Let her depend on you and draw from her strength. Pray in faith and believe God. Repent and receive forgiveness for your sin and move on, by faith doing what is right in the eyes of the Lord.
What she is saying doesn't make sense. She's going to have a little baby, and she wants to be a single mom? I'm assuming, aside from the fornication, you're probably a reasonably decent guy who loves her and wants to take care of her. And she's going to do this on her own? It makes no sense to the rational mind. That's the problem-- pregnant women sometimes think with their feelings, not their rational mind? Take what a pregnant woman says with a grain of salt.
Is she saying a bunch of emotional gobbledygook that doesn't exactly make sense to you? Is she blaming you for all of her bad feelings? Does she get upset over basically nothing, things that would not normally bother her?
It can take some time to get over these kinds of feelings. Hopefully she won't just shut you out of her life.
If you want to marry her, do things right. Ask her dad if you can marry her. Apologize for how you've sinned and violated his daughter instead of asking his permission and marrying her before doing that sort of stuff to her. Then, if she warms up to it, marry that girl fast. Once you are married, you are in a much more stable position. 'Boyfriend' is not much of a relationship. At least fiancee is a little better than that.
Wives can even talk like this. You need to be the emotional rock in the relationship as her hormones go up and down. You are the one who knows the relationship will endure, that there will be no divorce, that her emotional storm will pass. Let her depend on you and draw from her strength. Pray in faith and believe God. Repent and receive forgiveness for your sin and move on, by faith doing what is right in the eyes of the Lord.