You Learn Something New Every Day

[DarkWalker]

What did you learn today?

Today, I learned I do not control my emotions as well as I previously thought.

 

[stovebolts]

I learned emotions are part of who I am, and that people get uncomfortable when we discuss emotions.

 

[jasonc]

I learned emotions are part of who I am, and that people get uncomfortable when we discuss emotions.

that is something I wouldn't expect to hear from you.

 

[stovebolts]

that is something I wouldn't expect to hear from you.

Why?

 

[jasonc]

that is something I had to come to terms with.i tend not to like emotions. I have learned to realize they are a part of me.

Why?

 

[stovebolts]

So why would you expect me not to say something like that?

 

[jasonc]

So why would you expect me not to say something like that?

because while I know much of your past hurts and testimony. you came across as someone whom didn't have that problem. idk why I thought that.

 

[Christ_empowered]

Emotions...are. I don't know that you control your emotions so much as you control your behavior.

 

[Willie T]

What did you learn today?

Today, I learned I do not control my emotions as well as I previously thought.

Did anything come of that lesson? I mean any resolves to affect certain changes in what you may, or may not, intend to do with that information?

 

[Willie T]

Emotions...are. I don't know that you control your emotions so much as you control your behavior.

The truth is that you learn to know your beliefs, first, and both the control of your emotions and your behavior can, then, follow.

 

[jasonc]

Emotions...are. I don't know that you control your emotions so much as you control your behavior.

you will feel them but you can choose not to act on them or to use them to act properly. therefore I agree.

 

[DarkWalker]

Did anything come of that lesson? I mean any resolves to affect certain changes in what you may, or may not, intend to do with that information?

I've learned I need to avoid certain stressful situations, take another look at my medication, and make sure I'm focused on my self-management techniques. I also need to correct my thinking in regard to people in general.

 

[Willie T]

I've learned I need to avoid certain stressful situations, take another look at my medication, and make sure I'm focused on my self-management techniques. I also need to correct my thinking in regard to people in general.

That sounds like a reasonable view.

 

[Willie T]

I've learned I need to avoid certain stressful situations, take another look at my medication, and make sure I'm focused on my self-management techniques. I also need to correct my thinking in regard to people in general.

These "self-management techniques"... do they require being focused upon, or are they designed that you eventually incorporate them into your "instinctive" response actions?

 

[DarkWalker]

These "self-management techniques"... do they require being focused upon, or are they designed that you eventually incorporate them into your "instinctive" response actions?

It becomes instinctive. I already breathe deeply without thinking about it, and use muscle relaxation at times without thinking about it. There are other techniques I can use and should use, but it has been my experience those techniques--when seen by people in everyday life--tend to irritate them, because they think I have a poor attitude.

 

[Willie T]

It becomes instinctive. I already breathe deeply without thinking about it, and use muscle relaxation at times without thinking about it. There are other techniques I can use and should use, but it has been my experience those techniques--when seen by people in everyday life--tend to irritate them, because they think I have a poor attitude.

OK, so it sounds like you are, basically, working on immediate, or initial, anxiety control. What I was thinking more along the lines of was perception response.

 

[stovebolts]

Emotions...are. I don't know that you control your emotions so much as you control your behavior.

I think there is a difference at times between our inward behavior and our outward behavior.

For example, somebody could do something that makes me mad or sad. Neither of these emotions are bad, but what I do with them can make things better or worse. So, while inwardly I may want to lash out, it would be missing an opportunity to do good in a given situation. So outwardly I can control my behavior, but the real struggle is inward.

So, how does the inside and outside come into harmony? I think its about self growth and the transformative power of our Lord. It can start with prayer, study time and meditation. In other words, its about practical spirituality the way I understand it.

But this isn't only about us, its about others as well. Its about patience, longsuffering and reaching out to others in need with true empathy, and not simply empty words full of knowledge because without love, knowledge can come across as brash, rude and cold. Maybe.. Just maybe its about how we are treated and how we treat others.

 

[Willie T]

I think there is a difference at times between our inward behavior and our outward behavior.

For example, somebody could do something that makes me mad or sad. Neither of these emotions are bad, but what I do with them can make things better or worse. So, while inwardly I may want to lash out, it would be missing an opportunity to do good in a given situation. So outwardly I can control my behavior, but the real struggle is inward.

So, how does the inside and outside come into harmony? I think its about self growth and the transformative power of our Lord. It can start with prayer, study time and meditation. In other words, its about practical spirituality the way I understand it.

But this isn't only about us, its about others as well. Its about patience, longsuffering and reaching out to others in need with true empathy, and not simply empty words full of knowledge because without love, knowledge can come across as brash, rude and cold. Maybe.. Just maybe its about how we are treated and how we treat others.

This is why I said earlier that knowing our beliefs (I'm not talking about religious stuff, here) is primary and paramount...... understanding your reactive thoughts (perceptions) about yourself, the other person or people, and the situation.

 

[jasonc]

This is why I said earlier that knowing our beliefs (I'm not talking about religious stuff, here) is primary and paramount...... understanding your reactive thoughts (perceptions) about yourself, the other person or people, and the situation.

the army calls that icebergs, every has them.

 

[stovebolts]

because while I know much of your past hurts and testimony. you came across as someone whom didn't have that problem. idk why I thought that.

A lot of people live in a sheltered little box we call life and they hate what they don't understand. Start talking about some real stuff and it frightens them.... And they never look at you the same... There are a lot of ignorant people in this world, and sometimes its best to leave them in that state.