I'm confused. Did you guys reach a conclusion as to whether non-virgins were free to marry people other than who they fornicated with?
Your talking about this has got me thinking a little bit, and that verse in Exodus that commands a man to marry a woman if he's fornicated with her and she's unmarried and unbetrothed has me wondering whether God wants the same from us today.
I'm technically still a virgin in that I never had full-on intercourse, but I definitely did some impure, lustful, physical things with my girlfriend in high school, and that was after I became a Christian. I have repented and asked for forgiveness...but am I bound to marry her or no one else?
I'd never thought about it until now, but it seems odd that God has such strict rules about something he doesn't define very clearly.
Might I add that I don't find God's rules about faithfulness to your spouse and refraining from sexual immorality to be restrictive...they are what I now live by and the fact that God has declared them I find as reason to worship him...but I wish he would have given a clearer definition of what actually constitutes a marriage.