stovebolts
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My cousin had a baby with it's skin turned inside out, they didn't end it's life. Everythingit touched, even air, hurt the baby. It cried, screamed, and it died two weeks later. It tormented my cousin and her husband. You tell me how it was better off alive.
And yes, they knew of the condition before it was born. They had the choice to let there child suffer, or end it's life. They chose what they thought was best. Now, they had to live with hearing the shrieks of there firstborn, crying because EVERYTHING it touched was harmful. Do you know the damage it could have caused them? The mental damage it could have caused them, not able to help THEIR CHILD.
I am very sorry to hear about that. Suffering is never easy and to watch another which one loves so much is very painful. Like your cousin, I too lost a child. My child was 4 months old. No parent should ever have to bury their child.
We can learn much through suffering if we don't become bitter. Suffering changes our very being in a good way if we let it. It causes us to feel things that we would otherwise not feel and it has the ability to get us to look out and have sympathy for others that suffer when we ourselves would otherwise not think twice about.
I would have to say that your cousins learned a very valuable lesson. We can't control everything in our lives no matter how terrible they are. It is an awful place to be when you see something, or someone suffer and your helpless. But it affords us compassion that we would try to comfort another, not for our own gratification, but for theirs. Well too often we are self centered and think primarily of ourselves. But when you see someone you love suffer, and out of love you try to comfort, it is an experience that will radically change the way you view the world if one doesn't become bitter. I said once before that to love, is to suffer. The two cannot be separated.