Regarding your post #17, our will is not controlled by God but influenced by God.
The same could be said about the lust of the flesh, or the vanity of pride. But to say no to God is to say yes to a devil. And to say no to a devil is to say yes to God. Matthew 5:37. This exposes the equivocation in the term free will, with God acknowledged as the Truth and the devil as the tempter as the liar, God's enemy and my enemy, and your enemy, Matthew 13:25. For I see no good reason to not expose any ambiguity which Satan hides behind. 1 Peter 5:8. Matthew 5: 37
I take it you at least agree that God's Truth and the Eternal Spirit that is Love, influences us morally to some degree. But in all honesty, how big a part does the Eternal Spirit that is Love/empathy for others, influence our moral decisions to do Good to others? Can we have good will without Love in some degree? Would our degree of Love be reflected in our degree of good will? Is Love the product of decision just because I can refuse to follow? And if I deny Love, does Love not move me to sorrow, change my countenance, cause me to regret my choice, and move me to repentance?
In post #17, I am saying that in all honesty, and therefore admitting the reality of God's Eternal Truth, that God's Truth is all there is as pertains to Life and goodness, and anything contrary (ungodliness), in any degree is an equivocating or suppressing of that Truth that is Godliness. I therefore am saying it is not I that does the good, but God/Love inside me that does it, even though I do it in action since God is inside of me. For having been born of the Spirit of God, it is my sincere testimony that He is Love and without Him I am nothing. 1 Corinthians 13:1.
Regarding your post #18 above, we are save by grace through faith (Eph 2:8). Interesting that you quote Jn 1:12-13 as it begins by stating "as many as received Him . . .", a conscious decision to believe in the LORD, an act of obedience to the will of God. God makes the decision and obedience possible while allowing man the choice to believe or not, to be obedient or rebellious, to receive Him or reject Him.
You say you have read post #17. If you would be so kind so as to recall, that it begins by pointing out that we should not conflate the term 'will' with 'free will'. Otherwise we will end up arguing semantics which would be futility and not any form of Godliness. Respectfully, I feel you have done that here. I would ask, that in sincere Love, we try not to do that to each other. Do what? Take what one says and turn it into something they did not say by switching the meaning of a word, not intentionally, but through misunderstanding. Let's not let Satan rule here and cause division through misunderstandings that need not occur when in reality we agree.
In other words, I agree that some men receive Christ, and that these know God and have faith in God, and therefore they believe in Jesus who is God in the flesh. I also agree that some men cannot believe in Jesus, and conversely lack the ability to believe in him for an opposing reason. But I will not judge these unbelievers as capable of believing, simply because others were capable of doing so. Therefore it is an oversimplification to establish a free will based on someone's inability to receive Christ. This does not mean a choice or decision was not made as inevitably a choice was made. However, I will answer to God as to why I would think that those who did not receive God were capable of receiving him but did not do so intentionally. And belief in free will is problematic since it supports that reasoning that all men are equally capable of believing. For I know that I did not have the ability to not believe once I saw the divine Love and I sincerely believe it is by God's grace. Romans 11:20. Romans 11:23. Romans 11:30. Romans 11:31-32. Having said that,
I have already acknowledged that a conscious decision is made when confronted with the Gospel in the form of whether to believe or not believe. The issue is, can someone believe in the Word of God made flesh come into the world without the Word of God in their heart?
In my thinking, a 'free will' can be exercised in the presence of necessity [as by default it is God's command to believe in Him]; and that God actively influences our discretion as we consider, contemplate, weigh the alternative, and decide upon believing in Him for salvation. God does not make the decision to believe for us, but He helps us in every way according to His character and nature.
Free will is saying God does not control our choices, including whether we decide to believe in free will or not. But if God wants to show there is no free will as proposed by Satan, pointed out and described in post #17, then He would devise a way to show that it is not by the will of man that they can be righteous. For example, what about judgment? A choice of necessity disqualifies a choice as being made by free will, since God requires a choice for the sake of judgment. That is why Free will is not applicable, since God is exposing what spirit is behind the will of the person by what choice the mind renders. If it is a free will, there is no such spirit of darkness or Light behind the choice as shown in post #17. John 8:47. Hence Jesus is a sword of judgment that says, if you are not for me, you are against me. John 12:31.
I therefore would ask if you agree that a person will project his own depravity in his thoughts and actions including the decision to not believe in the Christ? And likewise, that the spirit that rejects Christ is Satanic in origin, is real, and is trying to give reasons to not believe, and is capable of stealing the seed that is the Word being sown? Matthew 13:19. Would you admit that no greater Love can be shown than someone laying down their Life for you, and consequently, to distrust that persons intentions as diabolical is not rational? Would you admit that free will is a guise for Satan or sin when it comes in the form of disobedience to God? Would you agree that you would never want to hurt someone freely? I hope you understand, that to me, when I ask these questions, it is the same as asking if you agree with these scriptures.1 John 3:10. Romans 6:16.
I 'will' not be a Calvinist!
Peace be unto you Sir. Perfect Love casts out all fear. I am not a Calvinist and I am not trying to recruit you. There is a Truth that is Eternal. With knowledge of this Truth, a person can expose the lies of the enemy. However, the enemy would make it appear that the person who is seeking to expose the lies is trying to trap you into admitting something that the enemy does not want you to admit. If you agree that God is Love, and Love is of the highest value, we essentially agree on all else. I am not your enemy.