Oz, for someone who whips out the "red herring fallacy" so much, you really don't have a grasp of the concept. Maybe you did at one point, but I think you've misused it so much, you've forgotten what it actually is.
From Wikipedia:
"A
red herring is something that
misleads or
distracts from a relevant or important issue. It may be either a logical fallacy or a literary device that leads readers or audiences towards a false conclusion."
In literature, a red herring is a device used by the writer (or an orator) to intentionally and carefully distract the reader (or listener) from something s/he doesn't want the reader to discover yet.
The second woman sounded a little self absorbed, maybe very self absorbed, wanting to talk about her own husband rather than the bloke Reba was talking about. This is nothing of a red herring, unless perhaps she was having a scandalous affair with the bloke behind her husband's back and didn't want Reba to continue discussing him.
Before marching out the red herring, you must first establish that the statement was intentional with the primary goal being to get you off topic. It loses its efficacy when you pull it out too much, like the boy who cried wolf.
Now, to the point made by
reba, what are the damages inflicted upon you in the thread you linked in your OP? Have you evidence of said damages that are quantifiable and measurable? You'd probably get a pay day if you presented your case to an American jury. They hand out unwarranted awards all the time, but you'll have a hard time convincing rational people that you were damaged.