I've been analyzing this very interesting thread, and I believe the crux of the matter is that you might be a bit naive regarding your understanding of the Scriptural meaning of "GRACE."
Christians do not realize that "grace... chastens."
This truth is hidden by the King James translation which translates the Greek word, 'paideuo', as 'teaching,' instead of 'chastens,' in Titus 2:10-12. Grace is 'defined' simply as 'unmerited pardon'. That incomplete definition makes grace an inactive noun. But grace, in reality is a active verb, that chastens us to forsake ungodliness and to live godly lives in this present world.
Titus 2:11 "For the GRACE of God that bringeth salvation hath appeared to all men,
Titus 2:12 Teaching [Greek - PAIDEUO - chastening] us that, denying ungodliness and worldly lusts, we should live soberly, righteously, and godly, in this present world."
Notice in Titus what it is that grace "DOES." Grace "chastens" us.
Hebrews 12:6 "For whom the Lord loveth he chasteneth [Greek - paideuo], and scourgeth every son whom he receiveth.
Hebrews 12:7 If ye endure chastening, God dealeth with you as with sons; for what son is he whom the father chasteneth not?
Hebrews 12:8 But if ye be without chastisement, whereof all are partakers, then are ye bastards, and not sons."
Now we know what 'grace' does and we know why God chastens us.
What is the mode of that chastening? Again, Scriptures tell us:
Titus 2:11 "For the GRACE of God that bringeth salvation hath appeared to all men,
Titus 2:12 Teaching [Greek - PAIDEUO - chastening] us that, denying ungodliness and worldly lusts, we should live soberly, righteously, and godly, in this present world."
Shall we continue in sin that chastisement shall abound?
Romans 5:20 "Moreover the law entered, that the offence might abound. But where sin abounded, grace did much more abound.
Romans 5:21 That as sin hath reigned unto death, even so might grace reign through righteousness unto eternal life by Jesus Christ our Lord."
Did you notice the point Paul is making in verse 21? "Grace reigns through righteousness."
Grace does not reign when we continue in our sins. Paul continues with this very same thought:
Romans 6:1 "What shall we say then? Shall we continue in sin, that grace may abound?
Romans 6:2 God forbid. How shall we, that are dead to sin, live any longer therein?"
'Grace' is God's "gracious love and favor." But what does grace 'DO' for us? When we sin grace does much more abound with God's loving Fatherly chastening and scourging until we are brought to see that it brings us peace that passes understanding when we finally quit banging our heads against the wall of "turning grace into lasciviousness."
Jude 1:4 "For there are certain men crept in unawares, who were before of old ordained to this condemnation, ungodly men, turning the grace of our God into lasciviousness, and denying the only Lord God, and our Lord Jesus Christ."
Those who soft pedal the consequences of sin never admit to 'turning grace into lasciviousness.'
I'm not at all saying that YOU (Mitspa) are turning grace into lasciviousness. I am only showing from the Scriptures that there is more to the "active verb" GRACE than most Christians may be aware of.