i understand - people for some reason condemn others really quickly and often - too bad - but God is not like that - there was grace/mercy right from the beginning - sin sacrifices for missing it as you say have been part of God's law so that everyone can find grace/mercy/love/unbroken fellowship with God
I have learnt through my own life experience with people and on line, our emotional balances and compromises define us. We are very bad at knowing them or even being aware they exist, except when we come across other folk who react differently.
The emotional mindset or way of expressing oneself can trigger in others exaggerated responses because they assume they know who you are and how you function. So the phrase "the fear of God is the beginning of wisdom" to some folk is sinful. Fear is unbelief, so fearing God means you do not believe He loves you.
"Be perfect as the Father is perfect." This is only said to show how impossible it is to walk like Christ so we will only depend on him and not aspire to perfection.
Now in 2,000 years of the christian church, knowing respect for God, we are sinners saved by grace, is part of our place. There can be no presumption. But presumption for some is their faith, it is claiming the promises for themselves, rather than acknowledging all the promises God has given are true when He fullfills them and not because we think we understand them. I have met terrible anxious and insecure people who panic at shadows. One response is to provide army security and kill anyone who comes near, or help them to realise we are secure in heaven and in Christ, in eternity no matter what happens, so there is nothing worthy of real anxiousness or insecurity, other than in the normal everyday sense.
The apostles response was to stand up for the righteous walk unto death and not be cowards. Cowards do not inherit the Kingdom. It is love conquering the fear of death, "Oh death where is your sting". So deep insecurity and hard hearts have no place in gospel. Jesus showed His power turning fearful disciples into the Apostles who walked to their deaths glorifying Jesus.
Our walk. Emotional changing, building on the foundations of the cross and love through repentance, really does change us. Becoming like children again, takes away our censoring or pretending while staying the same. I am now 60+ and still a child of God at heart. I am the same as my brother and sister in Christ, a servant to His will.
But if you believe we are formed as we are and faith is just the outer shell on our emotional makeup and being, there is no change, or love breaking forth, or new life, or joy and peace reigning where sin, death and darkness reigned.
This divide is so deep, I cannot call such folk followers of Jesus and His way, because they openly deny that is our goal, "Therefore be imitators of God, as beloved children" Eph 5:1
They hold a filter which will ignore Pauls intention and change its meaning, so what is clearly a promise and expectation becomes something different. And worse still such folk call us the enemy.
There are many who stand between the different camps, and are not sure where they lie. These folk are like seed on the good soil, still growing and working things through.
God bless you