Song of Solomon was between a man and his wife (or bride) not lovers (Ref Song of Solomon 4:8-12). Song of Solomon is the same relationship as Christ has with His church which is the bride.
According to Gen 29:15-21, we see, Jacob was given an option by Laban and Jacob chose before her father. Also, for 7 years, Jacob wasn't courting or dating but working for Laban to get his 'wife'.
You are still mixing 'beautiful' or 'pleasing' with 'hotness' to hide lust. Beauty is from God and but when you say 'she's hot' it means you are already attracted meaning you had committed adultery with her already.
This is why, which you called 'physical attraction' to get your wife is still termed as sin.
- (2Tim 2:22) and the youthful lusts flee thou, and pursue righteousness, faith, love, peace, with those calling upon the Lord out of a pure heart;
- (Job 13:26) For You write bitter things against me, And make me inherit the iniquities of my youth.
- (Ps 25:7) Do not remember the sins of my youth, nor my transgressions; According to Your mercy remember me, For Your goodness' sake, O LORD.
I agree, no one can escape this youthful lust or sins of youth, unless we have Christ with us in our youth. But this lust of the youth to desire upon a woman to marry her is still lust. I am not saying any cultural thing but what scripture says.
Well you got me beat! I really though the man and his bride where speaking to each other as lovers and if you are going to try and claim they are not physically attracted to each other you need to hit the power off switch right now:
Verse 5:
She
10 My beloved is radiant and ruddy,
outstanding among ten thousand.
11 His head is purest gold;
his hair is wavy
and black as a raven.
12 His eyes are like doves
by the water streams,
washed in milk,
mounted like jewels.
13 His cheeks are like beds of spice
yielding perfume.
His lips are like lilies
dripping with myrrh.
14 His arms are rods of gold
set with topaz.
His body is like polished ivory
decorated with lapis lazuli.
15 His legs are pillars of marble
set on bases of pure gold.
His appearance is like Lebanon,
choice as its cedars.
16 His mouth is sweetness itself;
he is altogether lovely.
Verse 6:
He
4 You are as beautiful as Tirzah, my darling,
as lovely as Jerusalem,
as majestic as troops with banners.
5 Turn your eyes from me;
they overwhelm me.
Your hair is like a flock of goats
descending from Gilead.
6 Your teeth are like a flock of sheep
coming up from the washing.
Each has its twin,
not one of them is missing.
7 Your temples behind your veil
are like the halves of a pomegranate.
8 Sixty queens there may be,
and eighty concubines,
and virgins beyond number;
9 but my dove, my perfect one, is unique,
the only daughter of her mother,
the favorite of the one who bore her.
The young women saw her and called her blessed;
the queens and concubines praised her.
I don't even want to go into the proverbs over this one but physical attraction is extremely important in a fulfilling marriage and eros is made by God, dont taint it with your legalistic interpretation.
Your nit picky responses with things such 'beauty' 'pleasing to the eye' and 'hot' are akin to the types of arguments that I encounter from legalists the world over within every subject.
Look If I think a woman is hot or beautiful or pleasing to my eye its all the same thing to me.
It does not mean that I desire in my heart to take my clothes off and have sexual intercourse with her! That is a judgment that you are making and I think it may very well betray your own situation.
What it means to me is that she could go on the potential list if she meets other criteria, to be considered as someone I might pursue to be my wife. Or she may just be good looking! Simple, why write into that more than it deserves?
I never said that it is the sole criteria but it is most demonstrably a very very important aspect of the love between a man and a woman, don't be silly man! If a person is not physically attractive to you, you are in a very bad spot on this one.
I agree, no one can escape this youthful lust or sins of youth, unless we have Christ with us in our youth. But this lust of the youth to desire upon a woman to marry her is still lust. I am not saying any cultural thing but what scripture says.
Your missing the point of what Jesus stated, the first half of His statement was this: "you have heard it said that thou shalt not commit adultery"
He was specifically talking to married men here, his disciples basically said 'sheesh, if thats the case better off not to be married!' (see how bad their system was in those days, so chronic that they thought it better to avoid it altogether)
We know it is wrong to desire another's wife or another woman if you are married or to disrespect a woman or yourself in such a way as desiring to have sex with her before you are engaged in relationship with her. But it is not wrong to look upon women as a potential wife when you are not married and part of that is physical attraction.
This trouble that you are having in differentiating between what is adulterous lust and what is natural inbuilt reaction in a man is very close to the reason why Muslims cover women from head to toe.
They blame the women for making them lust instead of recognizing and addressing the problem that lays within their own hearts.
This leads to hatred toward women and and many viscous murders, it is pure legalism, the twisting of the Word.
Why can you not dived and separate between legitimate reactions and lust?
And why do you continue to judge the hearts of others?
. i know, the one my avatar will be one of instruction for me when she arrives. who says parents that are christians dont advice their kids. if a kid is seldom raised in your manner here its kinda hard for a parent to select them for their son or daughter. yes, it can be done but if the parents of said teen arent saved or bride or groom to be, then how can this arranged marriage be worked?
