Heidi said:
Actually, I just found a site;
http://www.religioustolerance.org where it lists the reasons for annulments and lack of consummation is one of them. I'm sure there are many more sites also.
Paul tells husbands and wives to come together after awhile if they have mutually abdstained for devotion to God, so that they will not be unduly tempted by Satan.
That's not a Catholic site. If it were truly Catholic dotrine it would be stated plain as day in an encyclical, Catechism reference, Canon Law, or Conciliar statement. Nonetheless, Heidi, I wasn't worried about what the grounds for annulments are (and just because one has grounds for an annulment, doesn't guarantee one... there are MANY other factors cited in Canon Law as pertain to annulments), but I was concerned by your remark that not consummating a marriage is considered "cruel and unusual punishment" in the Catholic Church. This not only
blatantly false, it's completely ridiculous and absurd.
Furthermore, a valid marriage can exist without consummation. A valid marriage comes into being through the free consent of the will of both persons (who are not otherwise impeded to marry). It's in Canon Law.
Thus, in the eyes of the Catholic Church, Mary and Joseph, while refraining from consummation by mutual consent for the sake of Jesus, had a valid marriage.
And the whole "cruel and unusual punishment" bit is just made up nonsense.