Sorry if I was more direct with you than I should have been. My intent was not to be condescending nor belittling, let alone offend you.
the way I understand scripture is each commandment is weighted and as a whole, they are interconnected. It’s like a big puzzle where the pieces can be interlinked. Even the Pharisees understood that the two greatest commandments were to love God and to love your neighbor. They had the foundation. What they didn’t have was discernment to connect the other commandments properly.
if you look at scripture, men are commanded to love their wives and wives are commanded to respect their husbands. Note that women are not commanded to love their husbands. why? It is because women naturally love their husbands. Loving your husband is a given So when the command to respect their husbands is given, it is assumed that respect will be given through love of the husband because there will be times when a wife feels like her husband does not deserve to be shown respect. Without love as the foundation for respect, the relationship can grow cold.
at Sinai, it is viewed as a marriage ceremony and the vows have already been said. Love is a given and is the foundation all commandments are tied to.
The 10 commandments are built off the two greatest commandments.
1. Love God. The first half of the 10 commandments are how to love God.
2. Love your neighbor. The second half of the commandments show how to love your neighbor.
3. Between loving your neighbor and loving God, is to honor your parents. As you cans see, this commandment is wrapped in love and bridges the two greatest commandments. There are times we may fell that our parents don’t deserve honor, but our love for our parents allows us to remain humble, and honor them. There are also times when we feel God does not deserve to be honored, but our love for God allows us to remain humble, and out of our love for God, we honor him.
so yes, the commandment is to honor your parents and love is not explicitly mentioned in that verse. But if understand the words of Jesus that all the laws and words of the prophets hang off the two greatest commandments, then we understand that the commandment to honor is soaked in love.
i hope this helps you better understand what I failed to articulate earlier and I will be sensitive to how I discuss things with you in future replies.