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I respect that.
Well, it's important to appreciate that "it's too expensive" wasn't the only response given.
Right.
Yep, everyone's circumstances are unique.
And she's only 23, so she still has some life-learning to go through. I didn't get married until I was in my late 20's, which was a good decision.
Looking at the statistics, it is women that initiate the divorce far more often than men. So she would likely be the one that would want a divorce. At least she's sparing some poor bloke that headache.
But why, then I would ask.
In a historical sense, very much so. It used to be virtually impossible for wives to divorce their husbands, regardless of the circumstances. So you had a lot of women being abused by their husbands while not being able to divorce them.
Everyone has their own preferences and tastes. For example, I don't like "needy women" and instead prefer a wife like mine, i.e., one who is strong-willed, independent, and doesn't have to rely on me for everything.
LOL
You're a lazy dude J!
So you would prefer abused wives have no means to divorce their abusive husbands. That's shockingly sad.
Nah. If something were to happen to me, I'd rather my wife do well rather than be completely helpless until she finds another husband.
Yeah, I think that's part of it.
I don't think so. I think women today just don't take marriage seriously. They want the big wedding, their special day, all eyes on them, etc. But once that's all done, then it's back to real life and they get bored and eventually want out. There are so many resources now for women that there's no real consequence for leaving. They're heavily favored in the courts as well when it comes to custody disputes.
They still do. It's just that women now wait until their 40 before they really want to lock a guy down. The problem with that is they usually want a younger guy. But the younger guy may want kids and he has options. Why would he choose an older woman that may already have kids, is probably not interested in having more, and is closing in on menopause, when younger options (20's and 30's) ate available?
I think they're the same as they've always been. It's just that society has changed and men are seen now as resources and not much more than that. Guys don't like being treated like that. Who does?
Well, men are constantly being told by society that they're not needed anymore. Guys are adaptable. We just say, well, okay. Lol.
Maybe we should cut them some slacks. If marriage is viewed as a contract instead of a covenant, then that's a super risky business. Dating your partner, raising kids, buying a house and maintaining relationship would cost everything you have, not just money, but time, energy and other resources also, you no longer live for yourself, but for your partner and your kids, and then there's nothing in return for your commitment, at least not in many years, very few people in today's economy and environment could afford that. Weighing between the risk of a failed marriage that would leave you drained and devastated and the risk of dying alone in old age, is it a surprise that most people would choose the latter?
Contract is temporary, covenant lasts forever.
Till death to us part .
It would seem women view it as just a thing they can change out when they get bored. Then the guy goes through hell, he loses his kids, and he loses half of his assets. Looking at how divorce benefits women more than staying married, it's no surprise that guys have become wise to the game and want no part of it.
Unfortunately, that is true. But society is going to pay a price in the long run.
