Good day JLB.
I don't know if I am allowed to disagree with a moderator. If so, let me know, and I will stop. I assume REFORMED opinion are welcome. If not, I will stop.
You are jumping in late. The question as hand is: Does God choose who will be saved or does this decision (free will) lie exclusively with man. This being a subset of God's sovereignty; does he control ALL things. My response is with this thesis in mind.
God granting repentance to people is the Gospel being preached.
Definition of GRANT: to consent to carry out for a person
: allow fulfillment of (Merriam-Webster)
Thus, it is GOD that gives/allow repentance.
If therefore God gave them the same gift as He gave us when we believed on the Lord Jesus Christ, who was I that I could withstand God?”
When they heard these things they became silent; and they glorified God, saying, “Then God has also granted to the Gentiles repentance to life.”
Acts 11:17-18
Notice that believing come first, then comes the gift of life.
God desires all to come to repentance.
A lot of context. Peter has been with Gentile Cornelius after a vision and now explaining the Gentiles are now offered salvation. "
"Notice that believing come first, then comes the gift of life." The gift appears to be the holy Spirit of verse 16. I agree, the Spirit regenerates first and gives faith and repentance as part of the process.
“Then God has also granted to the Gentiles repentance to life.” Agreed. Again the word "GRANT" refers to the action of the giver, God. God takes the initiative.
"God desires all to come to repentance." Agreed. This does not mean all come. If God sovereignly desires something, it occurs. Not so with His moral desires. Example: God morally desires we all love Him with all our souls and hearts, yet no one does so this side of Glorification.
The story is very telling. Here we have Peter who was taught for years by Jesus. He thinks the Gentiles are not part of God's plan for salvation. He gets a vision which he is unsure of the meaning. Goes to Cornelius. Comes to conclusion that Gentiles are "in on this salvation deal too". Well this is news to Peter, before Christ. ("Remember that at that time you were separate from Christ, alienated from the commonwealth of Israel, and strangers to the covenants of the promise, without hope and without God in the world." )
My point ... the overwhelming percentage of Gentiles, before Christ, had no chance of salvation. This is because God chooses who He saves. Romans 1 saves the God has presented His case to everyone so they are "without excuse". If 'free will' be true, then it is statistically almost impossible that so few Gentiles be saved. For every effect there is a cause.
Again, your verse say "when they believed". This is a WHAT, not a WHY they believed. The verse does not explicitly say why they believed. Only bias can draw a conclusion.
The Lord is not slack concerning His promise, as some count slackness, but is longsuffering toward us, not willing that any should perish but that all should come to repentance.
2 Peter 3:9
Agreed. You assume God's moral will is the same as His sovereign will. I explained this above with example. (Aside: there is also an issue of the word "ALL". It is ambiguous in scripture. Example: Roman 5:18 Therefore, as one trespass led to condemnation for all men, so one act of righteousness leads to justification and life for all men. Unless you are a universalist, ALL here cannot mean everyone without exception; rather, without distinction.
God sends person to preach the Gospel, in order that people can hear and obey; this means two different people must choose to obey that repentance unto life can be obtained.
Agreed, faith cometh by hearing. It does not answer the question as hand (or at least I think this is the question at hand ...
why does one believe. Is it because God gives him faith of because man can, independent God, chose to believe.
How then shall they call on Him in whom they have not believed? And how shall they believe in Him of whom they have not heard? And how shall they hear without a preacher?
Romans 10:14
Agreed, "faith cometh by hearing". The quote implies that one cannot have faith without hearing the gospel. Thus, in regard to who will believe among those who have not heard the gospel, it is self evident that "free will" can not save them. This means for those people either God has not chosen to give them faith, or God does not control who hears the gospel or the 'free will' of man determines who will hear the gospel and therefore, to some extent, who will be saved.
The Holy Spirit is the Spirit of grace, by which man is able to believe and therefore obey the call of the Gospel, which is the call to repent.
Agreed, it is by the Spirit that "man is able to believe and therefore obey the call of the Gospel". Commonly called regeneration.
Man must choose to respond in obedience.
Agreed. Regarding our thesis: The reason he responds is God has chosen to regenerate him. God has made him a new creature. No one can do it himself as "no one seeks God".
There are no verses saying Christians decision to believe is of themselves and not from God. Scripture tells people they must believe to be saved and they assume they are capable from their own 'will' without God's influence/choosing. Scripture in 40+ verses says people cannot chose to believe of themselves. Scripture has 20+ verses saying faith is given (granted) to them by God. Eph. 2-8-9, Phil. 1:19, Acts 3:16 Romans 12:3 1 Corinthians 12:3 Hebrews 12:2
Respectfully,
F (nice to meet you)