After reading the summary of Christian theories on Christs work it brought into focus where I have come to.
Jesus had to die, to take the worst that could be done to Him and to say to the Father, "forgive them for they do not know what they are doing"
Jesus could forgive sins, by saying your sins are forgiven. He delegated this authority to the apostles.
By Jesus taking the worst man could throw at Him and forgiving them, if we can accept we also are part of that crowd, we too are forgiven. By being part of the crowd we accept we need to walk the way of Jesus which He demonstrated, in reality there is no other way.
Our calling is to walk as Jesus walked. From heart to skin, love, clarity, openness, purity and truth, is Gods way.
The group we walk with, just need to be willing to learn to speak in these ways. The problem transcends our circumstances or those around us, it is the light shinning from within that matters.
It is clear until people have open hearts and are prepared to deal with their direction in life and how they love and care for others, all the theology in the world adds up to nothing. These forums declare often how at a simple level, accepting Jesus asks us to be open, is not accepted as the beginning place of walking with Jesus, or even walking with Jesus is bring a believer. I spent one year, about, pointing out to a church leader on a forum their venom mouth and closed heart testified of something very different about the reality of Christ in their lives. In the end they did repent, but I do not know to what degree. It seems often these realities matter more than theology. Without the right heart things will never be clear.
God bless you