That's because we were not talking about Eph. 1:13,14
In any discussion about OSAS vs OSNAS, those verses are ALWAYS pertinent.
I was responding to your statement regarding grace and participation and why you think abiding in him means fellowship. I agree those who abide in him abide in the light, and they have fellowship with him. But Jesus said, "If a man does not abide in me, he is cast forth as a branch and withers; and the branches are gathered, thrown into the fire and burned. John 15:6
I've already explained from 1 John 1 what fellowship is. When a believer grieves or quenches the Holy Spirit, they are NOT abiding in Him. They are IN HIM, but NOT abiding in Him. But it seems many don't appreciate this difference.
So your question regarding fellowship is irrelevant.
It's totally relevant, but those who don't have answers won't answer the question. Naturally.
The definition of fellowship is companionship, a friendly association. So I said act like a friend. Walk in the light as he is in the light. Keep his commandments. 1 John 2:3-5
You nailed it. "a friendly association". How can one abide in him when they, by sin, are grieving or quenching the Spirit? Please explain.
1 John 2:3
And
by this we may be sure that
we know him, if
we keep his commandments.
How can one keep His commandments, if they don't know Him and His commandments? This is self evident.
1 John 2:5
but whoever keeps his word, in him truly love for God is perfected.
By this we may be sure that
we are in him:
This is about abiding in Him. We certainly don't place ourselves IN HIM by obedience. We're placed IN HIM by the sealing with the Holy Spirit, as Paul taught in Eph 1:13,14. See? Those verses keep being relevant.
And this sealing is a guarantee of our inheritance for the day of redemption. How is that not eternal security from the point of sealing?
So your argument is we have to confess our sins? I agree. But isn't that participating in our salvation?
Absolutely not. The Greek word for 'confess' means to acknowledge that our actions are sinful, specifically. The word is literally "to say the same thing", or that we agree with what God says about our actions that are sinful.
Why should anyone think confession of sin helps save us, as your question insinuates?
1 John 1:9 is in a chapter where 'fellowship' is mentioned 4 times in 3 verses. So confession is contextually linked to fellowship.
It's how we receive cleansing from our sins. Jesus made that point in John 13 when He was washing the feet of the disciples (v.5). When He got to Peter, who was always slow on the uptake, didn't want Jesus to "demean" Himself by washing His feet, so he told Him, "you'll never wash my feet" (v.6,8). Whereupon Jesus said, "If I don't wash your feet, you can have no part of Me." (v.8) He wasn't speaking about salvation, but fellowship. Jesus had already noted that all of them were saved (clean) except Judas (v.10,11).
Here's the point. In Jesus' time, feet washing wasn't symbolic as it is practiced today. In that day, people used the same trails and roads as the animals. So the roads/trails were filled with animal excrement. Get the picture? So it was NECESSARY to wash feet before going into a home or business, etc.
Can you imagine carrying dog doo on your shoes when you go to visit a good friend? How much fellowship will there be as your friend must hold their nose while you're there? Not too much. The stench has a strong affect on the visit (fellowship) and not in a positive way.
In the same way, our sins are an offensive stench to God, and we need to 'clean our feet' whenEVER we sin. To get the "dog doo" off our feet so fellowship with God will not be hampered.
iow, we CANNOT have fellowship with God WHEN we have unconfessed sin in our lives. So we need to get our feet washed. That's what confession is for.
No one gets saved by confessing their sins. Because no verse says so.
Can an unbeliever with unconfessed sin have fellowship with the Lord?
What? No unbeliever can have fellowship with the Lord. They MUST FIRST have relationship with Him through faith in Him.
And a believer who has ceased to believe certainly can't have fellowship with the Lord. And lose out on blessings in time and loss of reward in eternity. And face God's hand of discipline during their life. Which will be painful. To get their attention. For those rebellious children of God who continue to not pay attention, God will simply bring home through physical death, which won't necessarily be quick and painless.
Paul noted that the incestuous man in 1 Cor 5 had been "turned over to Satan" for the destruction of the flesh (v.5). Sound like a picnic?
See also 1 Tim 1:20 regarding Satan's role in how God may discipline a rebellious child of His. Ain't purty.
2 Cor 6:14 - Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness?
yeppers.