This is a good starting point. We're agreed upon the fact that man does not have the inherent capacity to believe the Gospel and that God must do the enabling in such a man to believe in the Person of Christ. And we're also agreed upon the fact that such an enabling to believe is all of grace and not something any man merits or is entitled to. Great.
Where I think we differ is here - I cannot make sense of an additional stage beyond this enabling work of God and before man believing in God - to me, both amount to the same effect, the former implying the latter. Whereas I think you see this enabling of faith as only the first stage of salvation involving God's work which then needs to be completed by the second stage of man's willing to believe.
The condition of the New Covenant is faith, and in order to belong to Jesus one has to be united by him in faith. Regeneration then, comes from being united to the resurrection life of Jesus. One doesn't get new life, and then receive new life anew upon believing, it is all one event.
Whoever believes has eternal life, this is a conditional statement and I embrace it.
If we're on the same page still, then I'd like to know what was the inhibiting factor that caused this incapacity in man to believe in the first place, which had to be removed by God's enabling work? I hold it to be the stubborn stony heart of man itself(
Eze 36:26) - which the enabling work of God regenerates into a new heart and why - so that it can no longer be stubborn and hardened against accepting the Gospel. So, once this enabling regeneration is done, what could still keep man from rejecting the Gospel after that? It would be quite futile to say that the will of man can still be disobedient and hardened against God when in the same breath we say that God's enabling work dealt with that very issue of a hardened and disobedient hearer.
I don't regard unbelievers to be benefactors of the promise of the New Covenant, therefore I don't see how the promise of having one's heart regenerated applies to unbelievers.
Here are a couple relevant texts within the NT on the matter specific to prior to one's coming to faith.
And when he wished to cross to Achaia, the brothers encouraged him and wrote to the disciples to welcome him. When he arrived, he greatly helped those who
through grace had believed, Acts 18:27 (ESV)
Apollos' preaching "greatly helped," the people who "grace" had believed. I don't see how an irresistible act of God can be "greatly helped," also the text simply says that these individuals believed by grace. This is where the idea of prevenient grace (grace coming before) comes from, that the grace of God enables people to believe the gospel.
"One who heard us was a woman named Lydia, from the city of Thyatira, a seller of purple goods, who was a worshiper of God. The Lord opened her heart to pay attention to what was said by Paul." Acts 16:14 (ESV)
Here we have a little more detail, where God actually opens her heart to pay attention to what Paul was saying. Does he give her a new heart? No, but rather gives her the ability to pay attention to the gospel being presented so as to be able to respond apparently. Again, I don't see an irresistible act of God here, a sovereign aiding grace for sure, but not Calvinism.
Anyway, I guess you must have reconciled this differently where you hold the inhibiting factor to be something quite independently distinct from the hardened heart of the hearer - which is how you are able to hold both the enabling work of God and the hardening of the hearer's heart to happen simultaneously. What is this inhibiting factor then that you hold?
Men don't believe because of their wickedness. Men who do believe don't do so because they are more righteous, but rather because they respond to the conviction of the Holy Spirit with humility and an acknowledgment of One's wickedness. As the tax collector once said, "God have mercy on me a sinner," it was that man who went home justified, not the one who exalted himself for what he believes God has made of him.
Whoever humbles himself will be exalted, and whoever exalts himself will be humbled. The example used dealt with Justification and therefore I think this teaching has to do with the kind of person who comes to God, and is justified in the eyes of God. The one who trusts not in himself, but in the Lord.
This indicates a misunderstanding of each other's beliefs - for I too hold the above statement as true and yet it seems you think the opposite is what my worldview must hold. While dealing with causative reasons, Man perishes because of his own wickedness - God's election has no causative role to play in that. I'm guessing you have an issue when I say that election only determines the salvation of those who've been shown mercy - not the condemnation of those who weren't shown mercy. To you, it might seem like one being the converse of the other - but i don't see it that way at all. Apply it in the context of one common murderer being pardoned by a sovereign king, while another is not - is the king to be blamed for this person being hung according to the law that he transgressed? And yet we'd attribute the life of the first person entirely to the mercy of the king, wouldn't we?
I don't misunderstand at all actually. The reason that one person responds and another doesn't within Calvinism is the fact that one is sovereignly regenerated and the other is not. The doctrine of reprobation is basically just double predestination, for if God chose to save certain individuals he also needed to make choices to not save others. This "passing over" would therefore be deliberate, to which of course the Calvinist would respond that God is leaving them in their sinful condition and doesn't need to show them mercy. However, this condition is from birth and goes back to Adam, which by Calvinist dogma would be all a part of God's sovereign will and decree. That man should fall, and that God should choose to save only a few and then punish the others forever and ever.
The implications of God sovereingly decreeing everything that comes to pass is fatal to Calvinism IMO.