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WHY ISN'T THIS GENERATION GETTING MARRIED?

Hidden In Him said:
Informative, and thanks for sharing.

I had to skip directly to the section where you responded to me, so forgive me if I missed something, but my response would be that doesn't this further my point that Paul would have been referring to separation in 1 Corinthians 7? If she could not initiate divorce herself then it means she wasn't actually divorcing, but simply separating.
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Pretty much. The woman can't "divorce" in ancient Jewish law. I was just being unnecessarily contrarian about the way you worded the example from Acts 13.
 
BroRoyVa79 said:
Pretty much. The woman can't "divorce" in ancient Jewish law. I was just being unnecessarily contrarian about the way you worded the example from Acts 13.
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I've noticed that about you. You throw out a lot of information. :)

I just do like they say in 1 Thessalonians. I keep the good and set aside the stuff that comes off as a little suspect, Lol.
 
BroRoyVa79 said:
All of the following is just to be unnecessarily contrarian and not an attempt to spark heavy back and forths with anyone...


I think this depends on age. A lot of younger women, no, just uh-uh. One, they didn't get taught how by mommy who may have been busy working to pay bills and not teach them how to take care of themselves. Two, young women tend to shy away from the nurturing type of atmosphere. Anecdotal example, and I hope I can do this without embarrassing my daughters too much, I doubt it, but long story short, I'm obviously a man. LOL. Got to clarify that these days. LOL. Ok, those bad jokes aside, well my eldest daughter (19) came running to me one day CRYING her eyes out about my second eldest daughter whom when I removed the earphones I had on my ears blocking out all noise I heard was also upstairs CRYING her eyes out. Their mom was out running an errand. I was also recovering from, I believe COVID (I don't do the test things, but everyone I told about it said they think I had the COVIDs) Anyways, I go upstairs. My second eldest (17) is on the bathroom floor holding her stomach area, spinning around every once and a while on the floor like she was break dancing, moaning and groaning. I immediately knew what was happening and looked at my eldest daughter, also as I said, A FEMALE, like you came to a man about this because you didn't know what to do. This happens to you also. (If you haven't caught on yet, we're dealing with a bad period here). Without getting into everything else that happened that day or why my daughter was in such pain (you ladies likely know, some of you guys do as well), the point was my eldest had no idea what to do in that moment and I've seen examples of that before.

Now granted, when I say eldest, we're talking about a 19 years old here, like I said and sometimes young people these days tend to freak out when stressful situations occur and run to a nearby older person to work it out. Or maybe I was just weird growing up or it was where I grew up or how I grew up that I had to just figure things out and roll with it. My son on the other hand tends to be a lot like me at his age. "It's whatever." Also granted, she'd seen this before in her sister and heard her mom talk about it happening to her as well.
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OK. No back and forth here, but yes, I've seen what you're talking about in my 20 year old granddaughter.
And I live in ITALY! It means this is world-wide!
There's a demand for nurses here because it's not such a popular job anymore.
Gee. I wonder why?!

P.S. Are you sure you're a man?
Don't you ever experience those days when you just feel like a woman and become unsure?
:helmet

P.P.S. Keep a lot of Midol on hand. Tell your 19 year old daughter about it.
:hysterical
 
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I think 🤔…keep in mind I’m not heterosexual not married…


There’s a lot of double speak in today’s society. You can have it all! Be realistic! 40 is the new 30! No one wants a divorced woman over 35!

My parents are both well educated and kind of outliers in their demographic because they got married in undergrad stayed married and had me right after completing their education. What I noticed growing up and I see now…again as an outsider…

Some of my former friends and acquaintances now have advanced degrees. The women with such degrees are heterosexual but mostly never married. One former friend has a phd a husband and a kid but I think 🤔 part of it was taking gap years between undergrad and graduate school. She’s the exception to the rule.

One friend never wanted kids works in tech. I think 🧐 she’s happy ish but the combination of sexism and ageism are getting her worried. I think having a live in bf and not a husband exacerbates the situation but her ideology won’t allow enough honesty to say so.

The gays are unmarried non monogamously couples which seems to be standard.

One couple…2 kids together since college stable…

Sort of have what’s left of the American dream 💭. Helps that her family has resources…

I dunno 🤷‍♂️ marriage works when the economy also works when the sacrifices make sense when society is at least somewhat cohesive..,
 
wondering said:
Oh my gosh. I've never posted so many sad emoji.

Can part of the problem be that women want to work - have a "career" - since this seems to be what makes persons feel important nowadays? Maybe this causes men to get past the age when they're looking for a true companion? And then they don't care as much anymore and start to reason the way you do?

I mean, what do you mean by MARRIAGE IS SEEN AS A LAST RESORT.
(careers come first?)
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For me it isn't that I necessarily want to work. It's more of a matter that in a marriage I'm not really allowed to be myself and to have any time to myself. It's like life suddenly has to revolve around the needs of someone else and I get no time to myself. I don't care for that. I prefer to be alone and just enjoy my free time. I can be myself and live my life the way I wish to. A lot of times in marriage one spouse can be more overbearing than the other. No fun.
 
I don't think it's that nobody wants a woman over 35. I see a lot of issues with men eyeballing little girls in the manner in which they used to eyeball grown women. If you catch my drift. We can't get a man cuz we're not 13 and dressed in tight clothes. Frankly who wants that kind of man anyway? LOL!
 
Hidden In Him said:
I think it takes God finding the right person for us.

As I posted elsewhere in this topic, if you choose one God did not intend for you then even all the preparation and good intentions in the world may not help. But if you find the one He did intend, even without a lot of preparation or spiritual maturity things can have a way of working out.
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I also believe that some people are not meant to be paired up. I do better alone. I am happier alone. I have more time for God alone.
I am not wife material. So it is nearly impossible for me to make anyone happy. Not fair to either of us to try.
 
Marci said:
I also believe that some people are not meant to be paired up. I do better alone. I am happier alone. I have more time for God alone.
I am not wife material. So it is nearly impossible for me to make anyone happy. Not fair to either of us to try.
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That was the preferred manner of life according to Paul's teachings anyway.

If I can, however, a woman should always keep her options open, in case the Lord actually chooses otherwise. In the case of my wife, she was happily single and had been up until the age of 48, but the Lord told her to marry me anyway. :)
 
In my post I was pointing out some of the contradictory messages the world is sending people regarding marriage and…life really.

I’m not heterosexual do celibacy is my option. It’s not punishment of course…lots of early Christians chose celibacy. Beats the alternative that’s for sure even in the here and now.
 
Hidden In Him said:
That was the preferred manner of life according to Paul's teachings anyway.

If I can, however, a woman should always keep her options open, in case the Lord actually chooses otherwise. In the case of my wife, she was happily single and had been up until the age of 48, but the Lord told her to marry me anyway. :)
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LOL! Well what if I don't want to? If God says hey see that dude over there...he's the one. And if I say but God, I don't want a man. Am I necessarily going against his will by making a different choice? This isn't the same thing as when you get saved. I hope you're making it worth her while. *Grins*
 
Marci said:
Am I necessarily going against his will by making a different choice?
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Yes, Lol.

Not saying it will happen, but Hosea married a prostitute. Some translators argue it simply means she was a promiscuous woman, but either way the situation was not ideal to be walking into willingly, and yet his marriage to her prophetically symbolized how Israel was violating their spiritual marriage to God, and I'm guessing God had more in it for Hosea than just mere symbolism. He likely came to love the woman deeply, and took the same joy in restoring her as God will take in eventually restoring all Israel during the end-times.

And no I'm not discussing that with anyone theologically, Lol.
 
Well I'm guessing that since I have a better relationship with Christ being alone that he may prefer I stay that way. I find being in a relationship to be too distracting. If he finds me someone I'll take a gander at it. LOL
 
Marci said:
Well I'm guessing that since I have a better relationship with Christ being alone that he may prefer I stay that way. I find being in a relationship to be too distracting. If he finds me someone I'll take a gander at it. LOL
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:)

I actually teach the apostle's stand on remaining solely in the service of Christ if at all possible, so I fully understand. :thumb
 
Maybe I should explain more. When I was married before...it was all about him. Him him him...24/7. Never me, never us...just him. He spent all his time dragging me all over the place and I never had time to myself. We never actually were a couple. And there was no place for God. I tried to make room for God but he squeezed him out all the time. I'm with God now and I feel safe and at peace and I feel loved for the first time in my entire life. I know that I am safe with God and he shows me new things all the time. I really don't wish to leave his presence for another relationship if that makes sense.
 
Marci said:
Maybe I should explain more. When I was married before...it was all about him. Him him him...24/7. Never me, never us...just him. He spent all his time dragging me all over the place and I never had time to myself. We never actually were a couple. And there was no place for God. I tried to make room for God but he squeezed him out all the time.
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Might explain why you are enjoying the single life, immensely, lol.
 
Yup LOL!
I'm finally where I should've been all along. That path may change down the road but I can't see that far so for now I just skip along and chill out. :biggrin2
 
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