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WHY ISN'T THIS GENERATION GETTING MARRIED?

My brother being but two years younger then me has five kids ,three grandkids.

No retirement fund saved.my fil is dying .he won't see next week .he is 89.

Grew up in the depression ,having no running water ,milk to drink and or also electricity . He is one of six .I haven't heard him say to me. I wish I had more money .he isn't poor at all .he said to me .you have taken care of my daughter .I was worried for years she would not have a man to care for her .

I can die knowing that is not so.he grew up without a good parental set up .he wasn't perfect .we can choose to do better and learn to do so .

In no era has marriage ever been perfect and idyllic .
 
My wife and I bicker ,we often do get mad at each other .I doubt she is saved .yet despite that I don't have worry as I have tested it when I was overseas that she would cheat on me .set me up to fall .truth be told I am not the best for her .

I could do more .marriage will teach you that you are a jerk ,selfish .what sacrifice is when you now see your spouse dying and can't save her .health failing and aging and you must bear the burden for her .

No love outside of that demonstrates the love of Christ .

A single Christian won't understand that . When the honeymoon is long gone and it's memories are dusty ,grey hairs on a face you stare at and flabby parts yet you still are there .that's love .

Tested,worn ,no needs to say it ,though it should be said .yet when she ir you are in pain rushing to the side to care and worry.

My wife was speeding to the hospital when I called her and told her I'm going to the ER.im in the ambulance as I have a esophagus problem .

I have rushed to the ER or took her more then I care too .a few falls ,a few problems as well . Mostly surgeries .
 
MayGodHeal, trust me, as I said, I'm usually not as optimistic as I was in my post to you. I'm usually pessimistic and I also call it being realistic. Had I not already had children now, I'd be strongly considering whether to have any at this point and time in our history as well as whether or not to get married, but, that outlook I have now came through the last few decades of the experiences I've had as well with everything. So, I get it, as I said.

And I've been there when I've been down the ugly void of everything is dark, gloom, doom and negative. I used to watch constant alternative theory videos (I refuse to call them conspiracy) about the NWO, etc. and everything was hopeless to me. Because I have a family, it started influencing the things I needed to do to make sure they could eat every day, have a place to sleep every day, etc. It got so bad that I was trying to figure out bug out plans for the fam if the people came for me. Sad thing is, I work for the people (government in the military and now as a contractor) so, that made it even worse cause I see the inside to all of the nonsense that most people don't see. I'm always baffled by how people can put so much trust in the government when 99.99% of the time the government is bloated, incompetent, agenda driven, etc. Wasn't always like that. I watched it gradually change from 2008 till now. I was at a point where I wasn't focusing on what God could do in any situation and was focusing on the bad in the world. I had to shut it all off and went on a 2 year fast from all of that. It was still there, but I didn't focus on it anymore. Went to school to study the Bible, etc. and changed my focus. Still all there, but I know there's an ultimate endgame that no evil human being, misguided human being, or malicious spiritual entity can defeat. Sure, bad things will happen in the interim, but bad things were always said to happen and have always happened in the interim.

I was telling a friend this when I indulged in some old school documentaries and what not and discovered that things weren't always great back in the day. Better, but not great, but I think we tend to always romanticize the past because the present and by extension the future is always smacking us directly in the face and constantly making us look at it.

Everything going on now is because we (Christians) dropped the ball. That's right, I blame us. But it was also prophesied that things would gradually get worse as time went on.

Just be careful that constantly staring into the abyss doesn't overwhelm you like it almost did me.
 
BroRoyVa79 said:
MayGodHeal, trust me, as I said, I'm usually not as optimistic as I was in my post to you. I'm usually pessimistic and I also call it being realistic. Had I not already had children now, I'd be strongly considering whether to have any at this point and time in our history as well as whether or not to get married, but, that outlook I have now came through the last few decades of the experiences I've had as well with everything. So, I get it, as I said.

And I've been there when I've been down the ugly void of everything is dark, gloom, doom and negative. I used to watch constant alternative theory videos (I refuse to call them conspiracy) about the NWO, etc. and everything was hopeless to me. Because I have a family, it started influencing the things I needed to do to make sure they could eat every day, have a place to sleep every day, etc. It got so bad that I was trying to figure out bug out plans for the fam if the people came for me. Sad thing is, I work for the people (government in the military and now as a contractor) so, that made it even worse cause I see the inside to all of the nonsense that most people don't see. I'm always baffled by how people can put so much trust in the government when 99.99% of the time the government is bloated, incompetent, agenda driven, etc. Wasn't always like that. I watched it gradually change from 2008 till now. I was at a point where I wasn't focusing on what God could do in any situation and was focusing on the bad in the world. I had to shut it all off and went on a 2 year fast from all of that. It was still there, but I didn't focus on it anymore. Went to school to study the Bible, etc. and changed my focus. Still all there, but I know there's an ultimate endgame that no evil human being, misguided human being, or malicious spiritual entity can defeat. Sure, bad things will happen in the interim, but bad things were always said to happen and have always happened in the interim.

I was telling a friend this when I indulged in some old school documentaries and what not and discovered that things weren't always great back in the day. Better, but not great, but I think we tend to always romanticize the past because the present and by extension the future is always smacking us directly in the face and constantly making us look at it.

Everything going on now is because we (Christians) dropped the ball. That's right, I blame us. But it was also prophesied that things would gradually get worse as time went on.

Just be careful that constantly staring into the abyss doesn't overwhelm you like it almost did me.
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Having been in the military from 1991 to 2017,with three years active and one year in the Stan .plus twenty years with my current place .the Idiocracy is much older
 
jasonc said:
Having been in the military from 1991 to 2017,with three years active and one year in the Stan .plus twenty years with my current place .the Idiocracy is much older
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Oh, I know, they just hid it a bit better. 2008 came and it was like everyone's brains fell out and there wasn't any pretense of appearing like they had sense anymore.

I mean I can tell you stories of some silliness when I was in the military. So, me saying it got worse, means it got worse from an already not so great point to start with.
 
Highway54 said:
I didn't speak bluntly about the skunk thing, it is what some of the new marijuana smells like. It is quite prevalent in our area. Really irritates me, but what can one do about it.

I agree things are deteriorating especially in the family arrangement, I think it really started forming in the 60's
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I agree. And I agree that it began in the 60's.
Now, some here, like ezrider , for instance,
believe all this trouble began in the 80's.
They must be younger and don't really know the history of all that is happening.
The family, the glue of society, becoming extinct under our very eyes.
 
wondering said:
I agree. And I agree that it began in the 60's.
Now, some here, like ezrider , for instance,
believe all this trouble began in the 80's.
They must be younger and don't really know the history of all that is happening.
The family, the glue of society, becoming extinct under our very eyes.
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Before .

Flapper era .Florida is a wild west with it's gun fighting and rum running days .

Look up the Ashley gang .Al Capone died in Miami and also owned property al up the east coast and hid money in my county. The Ashley gang could put run him and he respected them .
 
BroRoyVa79 said:
Oh, I know, they just hid it a bit better. 2008 came and it was like everyone's brains fell out and there wasn't any pretense of appearing like they had sense anymore.

I mean I can tell you stories of some silliness when I was in the military. So, me saying it got worse, means it got worse from an already not so great point to start with.
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I gotta remember 08 in the guard and school house days In active posts.i went to lost in the woods then .

Mp school was rather pc .I'm old .female in my unit in a line unit ? Now we have no restrictions.
 
jasonc said:
Before .

Flapper era .Florida is a wild west with it's gun fighting and rum running days .

Look up the Ashley gang .Al Capone died in Miami and also owned property al up the east coast and hid money in my county. The Ashley gang could put run him and he respected them .
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www.westpalmbeach.com

The Ashley Gang – West Palm Beach History - WestPalmBeach.com

How terrifying were the Ashley Gang? Between 1915 and 1924, they robbed over forty banks. One Florid
www.westpalmbeach.com www.westpalmbeach.com
 
BroRoyVa79 when people reject Satan and trust in Christ and not only follow but start listening and fulfilling Gods wishes is when there is profound hope.

Many people operate on blind faith and that may work to an extent but sooner or later people have to trust in God and fulfill his wishes. We can pray for better political leaders, it takes people listening to God to make it work.

Christian's also tend to be pessimistic about things, sometimes all some see is the abyss. Whenever I see a problem, obviously prayer is the best answer but also how can this problem get solved? Biggest problem today is evil is running the asylum.

Sometimes like these days, you can't escape the abyss... even if you can avoid staring into the abyss.

You know that saying when life gets it the way of starting or finishing those projects of yours? Sometimes life keeps you away from getting married/having a family. I don't even have enough money to go on a date with anyone. I never anticipated that property taxes would skyrocket (right before Covid hit), let alone costs rose as well.
 
MayGodHeal said:
BroRoyVa79 when people reject Satan and trust in Christ and not only follow but start listening and fulfilling Gods wishes is when there is profound hope.

Many people operate on blind faith and that may work to an extent but sooner or later people have to trust in God and fulfill his wishes. We can pray for better political leaders, it takes people listening to God to make it work.

Christian's also tend to be pessimistic about things, sometimes all some see is the abyss. Whenever I see a problem, obviously prayer is the best answer but also how can this problem get solved? Biggest problem today is evil is running the asylum.

Sometimes like these days, you can't escape the abyss... even if you can avoid staring into the abyss.

You know that saying when life gets it the way of starting or finishing those projects of yours? Sometimes life keeps you away from getting married/having a family. I don't even have enough money to go on a date with anyone. I never anticipated that property taxes would skyrocket (right before Covid hit), let alone costs rose as well.
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That will happen .

Currently
Home insurance cancelled,I had find new one ,costs more,need a roof .I can't borrow money for it .

My fil is dying .I have a colonoscopy Monday .

Roof will cost about 15 grand .
 
jasonc my property taxes went up over $200 a month near the end of 2019. That shouldn't happen. I don't know whether to be thankful of having escrow with my mortgage but that's a massive tax increase.

Can or did you at least patch up the roof? You don't want water getting into your home, will end up being much more costly.
 
MayGodHeal said:
jasonc my property taxes went up over $200 a month near the end of 2019. That shouldn't happen. I don't know whether to be thankful of having escrow with my mortgage but that's a massive tax increase.

Can or did you at least patch up the roof? You don't want water getting into your home, will end up being much more costly.
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Nothing wrong with it.insurance mandate
And property insurance can go up more then that .mom paid more on escrow then p and i
 
MayGodHeal said:
I feel like things have gotten worse. I was always angry at the world and besides early on I felt shy around women, looking for a relationship and never really got into one i realized I don't believe God wants me on that path. I'm 43 and still single. Despite now I'm dealing with lustful women at work (it's at a lesser extent now) and really see how much evil there is in the world these days, we can't even provide enough safety, job security but we're not even focused on serious issues like this.

We're too focused on materialistic things and honestly you can't go anywhere anymore without bumping into someone. I miss being on my grandfathers ranch because 90% of the time you were by yourself especially when farming. You could take a drive and see nobody for miles.

It's not even that way anymore there because they keep building more stuff out there and the nearest town is more like a city. I have zero ambition to have kids and mainly because everyday life feels like a struggle. So I just do what i can to survive and live on my own. Don't really need anyone to feel happy or complete.

I just see the world as it is and it just disgusts me. Some people can block it out, unfortunately I keep getting pulled into it.
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Just close your eyes and pretend it's all a bad dream. That's how I get by.
 
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