The idea that God would create some vessels to be destined to be destroyed seems to be the division. It seems to some to make God out to be unGodlike in their image of god. However from the standpoint of a creator we may be unfair in that we find no problem with a God making some vessels destined for eternal life.
I cannot help but suspect you are thinking of the common error of representing the decree of God for evil as equal to the decree of God for good. Calvinists do agree that God is directly responsible for the good. When a man gets saved, it is because God intervened and regenerated the persons nature to draw him to faith when the man hears the gospel. On the other hand, the decree of God that evil will happen is very different. In the decree that evil will exist, God does not intervene and make men evil. In fact what God does is the exact opposite. He stops restraining evil If you remember Romans 1 where it says twice... "and God gave them up."
Rom 1:24 Wherefore God gave them up in the lusts of their hearts unto uncleanness, that their bodies should be dishonored among themselves:
Rom 1:26 For this cause God gave them up unto vile passions: for their women changed the natural use into that which is against nature:
When the text speaks of "God gave them up" I assume that you would agree that God intended for evil to happen. God stopped restraining evil for a purpose. That is what Calvinists are talking about when we say God decree's evil. God intends for evil to happen. But he does not join men in their evil, he merely stops restraining the evil.
How would you read those texts? Did evil happen in Romans 1 and God did not want it to happen? Was evil an accident that somehow caught God off guard? God did not really expect men to become more evil when he stop restraining their evil? Would you say God had no purpose at all in evil? So in Romans 1, God stop restraining evil, but still hoped that it would all work out anyway? Evil just accidentally came into existence? No, obviously God gave them over to something... He "
gave them up unto vile passions." Does not that text imply that when God stopped restraining their sin, that he intended these people to have vile passions? Or would you read the text that he stopped restraining sin, and then was surprised at the vile passions? No, hopefully you can see God intended to give evil men over to their own evil nature so that he might judge them and show the glory of his wrath (see verse 18) and his justice in his judgment.
First, I would say that the whole story of Gods predestination of evil is not told. Rather the Calvinist view is twisted and presented that God somehow participates in evil when he makes a decree that evil should happen. Yet of God did not decree evil, then there would be no salvation. Evil had to exist for Christ to die for sin. So was Christs death kind of plan B? God never really wanted sin to happen, but when it happened God came up with plan B to take care of this unforeseen problem? May it never be. God all along wanted sin to happen. Then he can show his grace in the cross, and he can show his righteous judgment in judging evil men. How could God show his righteous judgment if evil never existed?
So then, evil God did not merely foresee Evil and then react, but he intended for evil to happen (decreed it) but he did not participate in it in any way.
In Romans 9, God hardened Pharaoh's heart.
Rom 9:17 For the scripture saith unto Pharaoh, For this very purpose did I raise thee up, that I might show in thee my power, and that my name might be published abroad in all the earth.
Rom 9:18 So then he hath mercy on whom he will, and whom he will be hardeneth.
John quotes Isaiah when speaking of the hardening of the heart as the reason the Jews did not believe in John 12....
Joh 12:39 For this cause they could not believe, for that Isaiah said again,
Joh 12:40 He hath blinded their eyes, and he hardened their heart; Lest they should see with their eyes, and perceive with their heart, And should turn, And I should heal them.
God hardens hearts by withdrawing his hand of restraint. He could have had Pharaoh born in some rural tribal land, but he had Pharaoh born as prince of all Egypt. He gave Pharaoh power. Was God surprised by how that power puffed up the Pharaoh? Then when Pharaoh got all puffed up, God judged him. He did that so that the nations might know his name.
sorry for the long post, but I suspect that you misrepresent Calvinists as seeing God's decree for evil and his decree for God as the same thing. Thats not exactly Calvinism. God is the only mover in making righteousness happen. We are merely 2ndary. Where as God does not participate in evil, but decrees that it will happen and then does not restrain some men from the evil that they desire to do.
Nonetheless, it seems ungodly to me to hope I am one saved and some other guy is the one destroyed. Even Jesus as my hope became sin so others may be righteous. This is the dilemna, to be like Jesus, should I not ask God to save someone else instead of me? For I am no more worthy of eternal life than the other guy is worthy of death. I would rather hope we will all be saved for the sake of His Love for His son who prays for us. But I do believe that is why His son pleases Him. Perhaps God is just waiting to see who will standup and take the cross for someone else.
Tough paragraph to completely understand what you are saying. One of the differences that I would note... you say... "I would rather hope we will all be saved for the sake of His Love for His son who prays for us."
I think this is the real rub of Calvinism. Calvinism sees all men as exceedingly sinful and undeserving. I often hear things from those who dislike Calvinism about all men deserving an equal chance. That is where Calvinism gives offense. We think no one deserves a chance. It is totally by grace. If anyone deserves a chance, then it is not really all grace, is it? I can just see it in eternity when the undeserving sinner says:
"well all men deserved a chance, and by my own intelligence, I thought it best to take you up and to stand up and take the cross. So hey, I deserved to be here in heaven because we all deserved that chance. Oh, yeah, Jesus shed blood helps just a little bit too."
No, none of us really did deserve that chance. God would still be God even if he sent every single one of us to hell. There is nothing that obligates God to save anyone. There is nothing that obligates God to even restrain anyone from evil. He can judge us all if he chooses. Those who are saved, should recognize his mercy and grace for we deserved none of it.