You are mistaken, there are many, many OSAS believers who do not judge that that person must not have ever been saved, that doctrine comes from Calvin and not all OSAS people believe that way, sheesh, not even all Baptist churches believe that. .
Really, Deborah? So if a person in your congregation, heaven forbid, was caught in the sin of adultery and they stopped going to your weekly worship services, what would you think? OSAS would state that "that person was never saved", because a "saved" person would not do such things... You couldn't help but wonder that, if that was the basis of your theology.
All sin was paid for at the cross. People will go to eternal damnation for one reason only, "not accepting Jesus as Lord and Savior".
And that includes people who choose not to accept Him in the distant future, but accept Him today.
He are some more examples, similar to 2 Peter 2...
When an impure spirit comes out of a person, it goes through arid places seeking rest and does not find it. Then it says, ‘I will return to the house I left.’ When it arrives, it finds the house unoccupied, swept clean and put in order. Then it goes and takes with it seven other spirits more wicked than itself, and they go in and live there. And the final condition of that person is worse than the first. Matt 12:43-45
Now, this is refering to the case where a "strong man", Christ, has cast out the demon. Note, quite similar to 2 Peter, the situation later becomes even worse...
For if we sin deliberately after receiving the knowledge of the truth, there no longer remains a sacrifice for sins, but a fearful prospect of judgment, and a fury of fire which will consume the adversaries. A man who has violated the law of Moses dies without mercy at the testimony of two or three witnesses. How much worse punishment do you think will be deserved by the man who has spurned the Son of God, and profaned the blood of the covenant by which he was sanctified, and outraged the Spirit of grace? Heb 10:26-29
Indeed, how much WORSE will it be for us, IF God punished His People. Jerusalem and the Temple were destroyed, despite the Jewish thinking that God had promised that He would be among them and that they were 'saved'.
If we could have been saved (found rigtheous) by obeying the Law, there would have been no need for the death of our Lord.
I disagree that this is a valid conclusion. A lot of people were found righteous before the Death of the Lord, such as Zechariah and Elizabeth (Luke 1:5-6) They were righteous by faithfully following Torah - obedience to the Will of God through faith. But it doesn't follow that God did not retroactively leave this window open for the Jews or anyone else who was spiritually circumcised based on what Jesus would do in the future on the cross. The Scriptures hint at this when they state that God patiently passed over sin, knowing that this aspect of the law would be fulfilled in Christ.
We can't force our child but there are very few children, if any, who would turn away forever, from the parent that they saw as a loving parent.
Forever is not a necessity - only until death. And from my experience, once there is a separation in a relationship, it is nearly impossible to re-establish it if the other does not want to...We live our life, and that other person is forgotten. "He" doesn't come up in the daily grind. It is quite easy to let years pass by. I know this from personal experience and my sister.
If someone has been born again then they have known the Lord as a loving Father and have recognized His love for them. I believe they will not be able to stay away, the Lord keeps drawing and loving them no matter what. And don't forget He is supernatural, He can do things we cannot.
It would seem that God allows man free will. While grace builds upon grace, those who have more will receive more, it doesn't follow that it is impossible to fall away. I would agree that it is much less likely. It is not something that happens overnight. It may take years of backsliding before it is full-blown rejection.
I am just saying that the possibility exists and that OSAS removes the virtue of hope and humility from the formula - if we "obligate" God to save us based on a faith formula from long ago. As you stated earlier, correctly, it doesn't matter one way or the other to me on whether OSAS is true or not - I will continue my walk as before. It just seems antithetical to the Synoptic Gospels and the exhortations of Paul to Christians that the battle is not over yet and that we continue to rely on God's mercy.
Regards