There have been several important points discussed on this thread thus far, and I shall attempt explaining my faith on all those as and when I can - but I've identified this to be the crux of the matter, at least for myself. I do not identify myself as anything but Christian, but my doctrinal beliefs do find common ground in the reformed view - this is simply to inform where I come from with respect to doctrines.
I completely get where the person is coming from when she makes the above statement, and in truth, I too praise God for His works in you, for_his_glory. Now on to splitting hair, not taking away anything from what you've said nor making it in any way personal, why must I praise the Lord alone instead of praising you too - when it was you who had the humility to learn and accept the Lord while so many around you reject Him and while it was you who did not harden your heart to His gift while so many others harden their own stubborn hearts of stone.
Doesn't it all boil down to that - all of mankind is not going to end up in the same place, and that's a Fact. In trying to determine the causative source of this disparity or distinction, we end up either concluding that some are just that bit more good or more humble or more whatever it takes to accept the gift of salvation than the others - or that God makes this distinction apart from anything anyone has done towards this. Of course, I do not for a moment believe anyone goes about consciously paying heed to how they're intrinsically better than the unbeliever, but alas, that is the inescapable conclusion of the arminian position.
And yes, while the calvinist position solves that by declaring each and every man to be equally totally depraved dependent upon the sovereign mercy of God alone, it makes out God to be seemingly partial. I, myself, have not found God to be partial from what I see in the Bible and it doesn't at all amount to any inconsistencies with whatever else I believe. Nevertheless, we must first choose our beliefs here to proceed further - for all further doctrines will be built on what we choose to believe here.
So if someone could explain the arminian position without setting some to be relatively more righteous than others, I'd gladly begin considering adopting that worldview - but if someone here could explain the calvinist position without setting God to be partial, would that be reason enough for you to begin considering this worldview?